Things change so rapidly now. 100 years from now no matter what you do and who you are, there is a very high chance that people won’t remember your name.

The truth is – you are not that important at all. Not only no one will remember your name, no one really cares much about you and what you do now.

You are not important. If you disappear now, the world will still go on. Some will cry but they will forget and move on much quicker than you think.

Your existence doesn’t matter.

Life is short. Time flies. When it’s over, it’s over. We won’t talk about life after death here.

Who you are and what you do doesn’t matter.

This is the truth.

Scary? Maybe. Liberating? For sure!

How often are we afraid to do what we want to do or be who we want to be just because others won’t approve, or it is too uncomfortable, or we gotta do this job first, or because there is sure still plenty of time left. Guess what, none of that matter. Because you are not that important and no one cares.

And also, no, you don’t have that much time left. I don’t recommend worrying about that now, but still.

No one will remember you in 100 years.

Does it really matter now if you do that job or go to that appointment or write your next blog post? No, nothing matters.

Besides one little thing.

You being You

You allowing yourself to be who you are. You stepping into your Greatness and doing what brings you joy. You finding your True bold dreams and going after them .

No one will remember anyway. You might as well stop trying to fit in, stop striving, stop pushing , stop being a victim of circumstances and just allow yourself to be YOU and do what YOU want to do and what makes your soul sing.

Being yourself is the only thing you can do to make a difference. This is the truth too. And it will liberate you. The True You.

Let go of everything that doesn’t feel right.

Start that business you always dreamed of starting. Yes, I know your business plan is not ready and your spouse doesn’t approve and you simply don’t know much about starting a business. Start anyway. Now.

Talk about your outrageous dream out loud even though others might laugh. Your outrageous dream doesn’t have to be to save the world. It might be very trivial, everything is relative. But it is Your dream. Dare to claim it. Dare to commit to it.

Ask that girl on a date. Yes, she might reject you, but who cares. No one will remember little unimportant  you anyway.

Forget the rules. No sex on the first date?  Don’t have sex just for the sake of breaking the rules, but have it if it feels right.  

Leave that relationship that doesn’t support your Vision. It might be uncomfortable; it might be inconvenient, but how liberating!

If you go with your True Self, you cannot go wrong. Because everything your True Self wants is aligned with Love. And Love never goes wrong.

How to embrace the truth and reinvent Yourself

Don’t be afraid to start over. Rewrite your story. Start a new business if the old one doesn’t resonate with who you are. Rewrite your message. I am changing blog’s URL because my old one just doesn’t fit my Authentic Vision. Yes, I am used to the old one, I tried hard to make it fit what I want to do, I tried to make my Authentic Vision to align with it (you don’t align your Vision with what you do, you align what you do with your Vision, see the difference?), I am likely to lose subscribers and I have 250 pretty business cards printed with the old URL.

So what? Living the truth is worth it.

I took down the product and cancelled the membership program I had few months ago cutting down a substantial part of my income at the time because they didn’t resonate with who I was .  I stopped working on a business that just didn’t bring me joy.

Change is scary. Face your fears and do it anyway.  It is scarier to stay stuck where you don’t belong.

I got my first client within a week of starting my new coaching program. I actually was afraid I overpriced it but people saw value and I could deliver what promised. The feeling I get doing what is aligned with who I am is incredible. The feeling I get seeing my clients’ a-ha moments when they “get clear” is unbelievable. It’s great to be useful. Change turned out to  be not as scary as I thought it would be.

Find your Core. Find what is true to you. What brings you joy? What do you love doing the most? What are you great at? Start doing it. The more, the better.  

Ask. If not sure  where to start, ask yourself – How can I do it, where do I start? And then go about your day knowing that your True Self will send you the answer. It always does. Just let go and listen. Once you hear it, don’t ignore. Write it down. See how you can act on it.

Trust. Have faith. Allow the Universe to provide. Stop stressing out about “how”. “How” is not your problem. It will come when you have faith.

Remember, the only thing you really want is to be yourself. This is your life’s purpose – be Yourself, live Your dreams, sing Your song.

This is the truth. And it does set you free if you let it.

I am in the flow.

What does this phrase mean to you?

I am aligned. Everything is working out. Life is moving me forward. I am dancing with life instead of resisting and pushing. I live with ease. I live with passion. I love what I do.

I am in the flow.

Are you in the flow? Or do you remember the time in your life when you were?

Ideas, opportunities, and people seemed to show up right in time, moving you forward where you wanted to go. Serendipities followed you everywhere.

Small and seemingly insignificant events had a whole new meaning for you because they were there to show you – you are on the right track.

You felt excited, motivated, inspired.

You found your muse.

And you rolled with it.

You lived!

You do know what I am talking about, right? I know you do. You might be in the flow now. Or I bet you remember at least one period in your life when you were in the flow. It might have been short or it might have been long. But I know you know what I talking about.

Where did all that magic come from?

You tapped into your Inner Genius. You tapped into your Inner Source of Creativity, Inspiration, Motivation and Wisdom.

We all have that Inner Genius that can help us with anything. That Inner Source of Creativity that is ready to provide us with a million ideas about how to make our dreams a reality. That Inner Source of Wisdom to help with taking action on opportunities.

It is inside of us waiting for us to reconnect with it.

Maybe you got disconnected from the source and never found your way back. Or maybe living in connection with it is your everyday reality. Lucky you, if it is the latter.

All the success stories you hear are about people who tapped into the source.  Success rarely has anything to do with luck. In fact I don’t believe in luck, but I guess it is just the matter of how we define certain terms.

And I am even going to dare to say that success rarely has anything to do with hard work alone (don’t throw stones at me yet, let me explain).

Sure, both luck and hard work might take place but they took place because the connection to the source was there. It might have been weak or it might have been strong but it was there.

I truly believe that big and authentic success can’t come only because of luck or hard work. If you are completely disconnected you’ll never find enough motivation to keep up with the hard work.  And luck will never ring its charms on you.

All the answers are truly inside of us. All we have to do is to learn how to connect with the source on a regular basis and you will always be in the flow.

So without postponing it any further, how do you connect to your Inner Genius?

How do you get in the flow?

Here are the exact steps to follow:

Find who you are. “Know thyself” for centuries has been proclaimed to be a key to happiness, meaning and fulfillment. Do you know who you truly are? What are you good at? What  are you passionate about? What are your values?

Do this quick exercise for me. Grab a piece of paper. Now close your eyes and imagine your Best Self. Imagine a time when you are at your best – you look the best, you feel the best, you are happy with yourself, you act exactly the way your Best Self would act.

 Get into that feeling of being your Best Self. Now open your eyes and write down 7-10 words that describe your Best Self. Courage, trust, powerful, sophisticated,… what are your words?

Don’t think. Don’t analyze. Just write them down. That’s going to give you a good glimpse into your True Self. There are tons of other exercises you can do to discover who you truly are.

Find yourself. Don’t postpone. This is the only way to get in the flow and stay there.

Write down your life purpose statement. Now expanding from the step above, come up with your life purpose statement. You can read this series to help you with that.

They often say you don’t discover your life purpose, you create it, and I totally agree. As long as it resonates with you on a deep level, inspires you and is clearly stated, you got it right.

Come up with your Vision. Having an authentic vision aligned with who you are and your life purpose is the next step.  Your Vision should answer two questions – what and why. What you want your life to be and why you want it. Write it down.

Get clear on your goals aligned with your True Self, your Life purpose and your Authentic Vision. Write them down as clearly as possible.

Clarity

Everything we were doing  up until now was to help us gain true clarity. 95% of the population lives without that degree of clarity. Are you going to be in the winning 5%?

I believe and saw many examples that true clarity can create miracles.

Live consciously. Why? Because this is the only way to ensure you live every day aligned with your True Self, your Purpose, your Vision and your goals. When you live consciously and with awareness you won’t allow yourself to slip into the old patterns. You won’t allow your limiting beliefs to distract you.

You’ll live your Vision fully.

If you do all of the above, there is a very high chance you’ll get in the flow. Your Inner Genius will wake up and start doing everything to help you along the way. But in order for you to not disconnect again make sure you do the following regularly as well.

Spend time with yourself. What are the activities you do that reconnect you with your True Self?  It might be journaling, it might be meditating, it might be reading a book or listening to some particular music. What makes you feel inspired? What makes you vibrate high?  Whatever it is, find it.

Do it regularly no matter how busy you might be. Remember, if you lose your connection, no amount of hard work will help you to reach your goals.

If you stay connected though, if you are in the flow, hard work will never feel like hard work. You’ll enjoy it. You’ll be motivated to keep up with it. You’ll be inspired. You’ll have tons of ideas. And see opportunities everywhere you go.

You’ll be in the flow.

And you’ll get the results that you want.

Most importantly, you’ll enjoy the journey.

That’s all that really matters.

Remember, happiness is a process, not a destination.

Notes: As you might have noticed with major blog redesign I am also very excited to launch my coaching that I’ve been doing only offline up until now.  This is exactly what my coaching is designed to help you with – to get clear and to get in the flow. And I give you the tools to stay there —  I create a custom made visualization CD just for you to help you get aligned with your Authentic Vision. Check it out.

       1 .   You fail only if you quit. There is a great quote “Failure is not fatal, success is not final, it is the courage to continue that counts.”   There is another great quote “It is not that I am smarter I just stay with the problem longer.”  Failure is just a step closer to your dream. As  long as you get up and keep moving, you will succeed, there is no way around it.

  2.      Do something every day to get out of your comfort zone. This is the only way to grow and learn. Fear is your biggest enemy on the way to your dreams. The more you go out of your comfort zone the less you fear. You cannot succeed if you always stay in your comfort zone. Make it a point to do something every day, even if it is something small, to get out of your comfort zone.

3.      Know exactly what you want. Make a vision out of it. Write it down.

4.      Focus on what you want, ignore what you don’t want. What you focus on multiplies and grows in your life.

5.      Live in the present moment, take things one day at a time. Especially when times get tough, don’t think of the future, don’t think of anything else but the present moment. You can get through anything one moment at a time. Know your long term vision and then take each day one at a time.

6.      Keep moving, don’t stand still. Always strive for taking action. The longer you stand still the harder it is going to be to start moving again. Do whatever it takes to take action toward your dreams. Even if it is something small, small steps add up into massive success over time.

7.      Always find something to be grateful for. Think about what you are grateful for every day. If you can’t find anything, think about the children starving in Africa, I bet you will find something after that.

8.      Take full responsibility for everything you have in your life. Only when you take full responsibility for what you have, do you give yourself power to change your life for the better. You can’t change anything while in the victim mode.

9.      When something good is over, don’t cry, smile and be grateful that it was. You will attract something even better this way.

10. Don’t procrastinate because you think you need more preparation time. You will never know it all. Take action and learn on the way.

11. Don’t worry about making money, think about bringing value. Money will follow.

12. Find your passions. You can’t bring value if you are not passionate about what you do.

13. Commit to continuous learning, you will never know it all.

14. Don’t resist things you don’t like in your life. What you resist persists. Instead of focusing on what you don’t want, focus on what you want.

15. No one is ever misbehaving. Stop trying to control others and get upset if they don’t do what you expected them to do. Just assume that no one is ever misbehaving, no one is ever trying to upset you on purpose. Life gets much easier when you assume that.

16. Even when someone does upset you on purpose they most likely do it out of fear. Forgive quickly.

17.  Be kind to people. Most importantly be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for your mistakes. Just say “Next time I’ll do it differently”. Again it is all about your focus. Focus on what you did wrong and you will do it again. Focus on how you can do it better, and you will do it better.

18. Expect only the best and you will get the best. Believe you deserve a wonderful life. You will never get more than you are open to receive.

19. Don’t get comfortable. Be happy and grateful, but never comfortable. As soon as you are comfortable you stop growing. Life is about continuous progress, be happy with what you have but always strive for more.

To be continued….I add more rules all the time, so I’ll keep them posted here.  Do I follow all of those rules 100% in my life? No, I don’t, but I am trying and I know one day I will.