How I Got to The Core, Got Scared… and Survived.

If you’ve been following me on this blog, you know that I have recently changed the name, the design and the whole direction of the blog.

That was really exciting. I’ve been wanting to make that change for awhile.

Here is where the scary part came in. I changed the direction of my coaching as well.

I’ve started coaching 5 months ago. At first I was getting clients primarily offline through networking and word of mouth. From the very beginning I was helping people with clarity. You might think that clarity is a focused and clear topic.

I thought so too. I decided right from the beginning that I was not going to do traditional life coaching. I help people to get clear on who they are, what their purpose/values are and help them to align their goals and actions with all of the above.

I believe that Universe responds to clarity and moves you in the direction you want to go once you are truly clear.

All of that seemed to be clear enough.

I was wrong. I was not clear myself.

I was helping everyone around with clarity.  And I was pretty good at it. Most importantly my clients were getting results. One of the first clients I had who needed help in relationships area, got engaged two months after our coaching to the woman of his dreams.

That was kind of a shocker. I knew it works but I still didn’t expect it to work that quickly.

Anyway, all of that was good.  Really good.  But not great.

I realized that I needed to get more clarity myself. And I asked myself several questions.

Who is my Ideal customer? Who do I enjoy helping the most? Where do I feel I can make the biggest impact? Who am I truly passionate about helping and feel really fired up when working with?

The answer scared me. I enjoy working with entrepreneurs/aspiring entrepreneurs who need more clarity in aligning their business/vocation/product/marketing strategy etc.  with their Authentic Self  and need to figure out how to clearly communicate their Authentic Vision to the world.

Brainstorming for ideas, using my creativity and intuition and helping people with aligning their Purpose and Authentic Vision with their vocation is what I do best and what really fires me up.

That scared me. Why?

First of all narrowing down my clients’ base that much felt really uncomfortable. Even though we all know the more targeted you are, the better. But I think we all still subconsciously resist narrowing things down too much.

Getting clear all the way is scary.

Changing direction is scary. Even though some of my clients in the past were entrepreneurs/aspiring entrepreneurs but that is not what I used in my pitch while networking. That is not what I had on my site.  That is not what I have on my business card.

So I’ll have to make more changes. I’ll have to say “no” to potential customers who are not entrepreneurs and don’t need my help with figuring out their Authentic Vision. I’ll have to rethink my own marketing. I’ll have to come up with a new pitch. I’ll have to create new content.

Will anyone believe me that that’s what I am good at? I don’t have that much experience to back it all up. Sure I have some, but that’s not enough. (you know that little voice in your head that always thinks you are not good enough?)

I know in my heart that that is what I should be doing. The heart doesn’t lie, but who will believe me?

I decided to still go for it.

Guess who the first two coaching clients were that came to me as soon as I made that decision? Before I even had time to change anything in the external world.  Before I even had time to refine my networking pitch or change the coaching page on my sites or create new content.

Entrepreneurs, of course!

The Universe responds to clarity. Always.

That was a sign for me that I am on the right path. And I should definitely and undeniably go for it.

What are you afraid getting really clear on in your life? What are you afraid getting too precise on? What do you resist to narrow down?

Think about it? Where does scarcity mindset is not allowing you to get really clear on what you’d want to do or have or be?

Do you know precisely what kind of relationships you want?  If I ask you to name 6 “must haves”  your Ideal Partner should have, can you do it?  If you are a business owner or artist or aspiring entrepreneur, do you know exactly who your ideal customer is?

Being afraid to get really clear and precise on what you want is a scarcity mindset. Sure, you should always be open to new opportunities. Sometimes we don’t know right off the bat what is the best for us.

But if your soul asks for it, don’t be afraid to get truly clear.

It was my scarcity mindset that was telling me : “You know there might not be enough people who would want your coaching if you narrow your target market down that much. You don’t have enough credibility to do something like this.

So what if enjoy it? So what if your clients are getting results?

May be it was just a coincidence. Wait a little bit. You are already clear enough.  Announcing it to the world is not such a good idea yet.  If you get those clients great. If you don’t, then at least there are always others who you can help. Everyone benefits.”

Bullshit!

No one benefits if I am not doing precisely what I immensely enjoy and feel I am really good at. No one benefits if I stay in the scarcity mode. How can I teach others to dare to live their Truth if I am myself scared to live mine?

I changed it. I committed. I dare to announce myself a person who helps entrepreneurs and aspiring entrepreneurs to get clear on who they are, what their Purpose and Vision are and then help them align what they do in the world with their Vision/Purpose/their Authentic Self.

If people come into my life who need help in other areas and I feel I can help them, I always will, of course. But I won’t actively pursue anyone else in my marketing but my Ideal Customer from now on.

I commit to living My Truth. Doing what I feel is in alignment with my heart. Get rid of everything else.

Strip down all the fake stuff until I get to the very core.

It’s a process. It doesn’t happen in one day. But as long as you are open and not scared to live Your Truth, you will find it.

And life will have more meaning. And your path will become clearer. And the World will respond.

The Universe wants to give you everything that you truly desire. Just let it.

How do you let it? By getting clear and daring to commit.

Tagged as: changing direction, clarity, self-realization

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