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Clarity Series or Questions to Crack Open Your Reality – Episode 1

I am still figuring out the format for my Clarity series and what day of the week I want to post them on. So while the details are getting figured out, let’s start today. Easter Sunday. Happy Easter by the way, if you are celebrating!

My goal with the Clarity series is to ask you one or maybe several questions to help you reveal another slice of your core.

The more questions you ask and answer, the clearer you get. The clearer you get, the higher you fly.

Clarity is a process. It’s an evolving journey and we are on it until we die. Never think – “This is it, I am finally fully clear and I’ll stay that clear for life”.  It’s like saying – “Ok, I don’t want to grow anymore.”

Anyway, I am rambling.

So in today’s Clarity series I want to ask you:

Pick one object in your house or maybe not necessarily in your house, but something you own that is really dear to your heart for whatever reason.

It might be anything that you really like.  Maybe some gift that you received and cherish or maybe something you bought yourself. Small, big, doesn’t matter, as long as it is really dear to you.

Now the question I’d like you to answer is:


Why do you like it? What do you see in it? Why is it dear to you?

Think about it for a minute and write down your answer. Again, it might be a very thin slice but the more slices, the closer you are to Freedom.  And you never know which question will crack open your reality. So keep asking. Keep answering.

I’ll respond myself to give you an example.

I had two objects that  came to mind first – one is my journal, but I already kind of answered why I like journals in the interview with myself.

Another one was a Christmas ornament (I know it’s not the best picture).

There is a quote on it by Elizabeth Barret Browning that says: “I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you”.

Why do I love it? Because it’s not just an ornament, there is meaning in it.  (No, no one gave it to me. I bought it myself in fact. Maybe I’ll give it to someone some day. I hope:))

It’s an ornament with a very special message.

Meaning. Meaning is my keyword.

It’s not about that particular quote, even though I do love the quote. It’s about again meaning and some kind of sacredness that comes from it.

This question and few others helped me to realize that I need meaning in everything  I do. That changed my life.

Now is your turn. What is your object? Why do you love it?

Get clear. Write it down.Maybe even start a separate notebook. Daring Clarity notebook. That would be so super cool! Hey, maybe I need to create a line of Daring Clarity journals? Hmmm… interesting… writing it down.

So what’s your object? Why?

P.S. If you don’t plan on answering the questions, don’t read the series. I really want you to benefit. If you don’t plan on “benefiting”, then at least don’t waste your time.

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Stephen - Rat Race Trap April 4, 2010 at 11:42 am

Hi Lana, that’s a freaking wonderful quote on your Christmas ornament 🙂

You may not believe this but I don’t have an object. None. I really tried and I just can’t come up with anything. I don’t know if that is good or bad, but the only inanimate objects I cherish are my books. Everything else is or was alive (my family, friends, pets, etc.)
.-= Stephen – Rat Race Trap´s last blog ..Going Gaga Over Gurus =-.


Lana April 4, 2010 at 7:00 pm

thanks Stephen! Books is a great answer!


Annie Stith (Gr8fulAS) April 4, 2010 at 12:17 pm


I don’t have much, but what I do have pretty much all has meaning for me, so it was difficult to pick out just one item. I finally settled on an old, beaten up, fuzzy little stuffed squirrel I keep on top of my bookcase. It was given to me by a good friend, who won it out of one of those “claw” vending machines. Thing is, it didn’t stay mine. I woke one morning to find it in the middle of the kitchen! It wasn’t hard to figure out, since I don’t sleepwalk. My cat, April, had decided to move it. So, I put it back on the desk where I’d had it. It became a game. Every morning when I’d wake, I’d go on a squirrel hunt. April always left it out in the open, but it could be in any room. She’d follow me around while I looked for it, looking prouder the longer it took.

April passed over a few years back, but I kept the squirrel. It reminds me that my days go much better if they start out with a little joy and laughter–and a cat.



Lana April 4, 2010 at 7:01 pm

thant’s beautiful Annie, thank you for sharing!


Jeremy Johnson April 4, 2010 at 1:13 pm

Lana, I would say there are three objects that I hold dear.

1: My wedding ring – this helps me think of my wife when we are apart. It helps me think of when we were first dating and what brought us together in the first place. It helps me think of our family while I am at work during the day.

2: My basketball – I love the game of basketball. My basketball helps me think back to my younger days (I’m 32 now – I guess that is still young). It helps me realize the passion and fire inside me. When I am playing basketball, I feel a sense of calmness and peace.

3: My computer (Is that nerdy? :)) – I love my computer! Ever since I was 5 years old I can remember using a computer. It is a vehicle for me – a way to get what is in my brain out into the real world. I’m not sure what I would do without my computer.

Thanks for sharing your special objects 🙂


Lana April 4, 2010 at 7:02 pm

thanks for sharing yours, Jeremy! Computer is pretty important!


Sara April 4, 2010 at 4:18 pm

I came to your site to read your interview with Tess, but couldn’t resist responding to this post.

My favorite object is actually more like a person to me. She’s a tiny, little wizened troll, in a magician’s dress with a leather jacket and hat. I took one look in her eyes and knew she was the embodiment of my MUSE!!! I even wrote a post about her. She’s called Izzy and when I’m stuck or struggling with writing, I look over at her and she makes me smile, which somehow helps me.

Funny thing about her is I found her because I was supposed to get rid of her. I was cleaning my house and found a box of trolls my youngest daughter had kept. As she is much older now, there’s not an interest in playing with trolls. I kept trying to rid of the box, but couldn’t. Then one day, I opened it and there was Izzy. I kept all of them, but Izzy is my favorite. She’s sort of my alter-ego…a bit more wild and daring, but still very wise.

Thanks for this exercise…I love being reminded of how special Izzy is to me:~)
.-= Sara´s last blog ..My Grandfather’s Old Journal =-.


Lana April 4, 2010 at 7:04 pm

ahhh, I loved it Sara, thanks for telling us about Izzy! So awesome to have a muse that inspires you!


Joy April 4, 2010 at 5:04 pm

My first answer is my painting I call “Ethereal Joy”. While at an art show, this painting called out to me, because it is a representation of my entire life story–as if it were painted for me. It wasn’t even for sale, but after encouragement from loved ones, I emailed the artist and after hearing my story she said she *must* have painted it for me, so gave it to me. A miracle on many levels. My first material “treasure” since I bought my boat three years ago. I live on a sailboat, so that makes my painting most frivalous–it takes up an entire wall, needs to be built in somehow, falls down if it’s too windy, but she represents to me my freedom, my Spirit. She is the “guardian” of my boat, only those who I think will love her as I do may come into my space. And if I ever doubt myself I look at her and think of how far I’ve come and how I’ve allowed my layers to be peeled back to shine my light and reveal exactly who I am. As I person who used to dim my light to “fit in” the fact that I proudly hang her–in essence showing my Spirit–is greatly significant.

Having said that, most of what I’m surrounded with on the boat is my favorite. There is minimal space, so what I choose to have around me is full of good energy, meaning, something that adds to the comfort or peace on the boat. It took me a while to release enough to get to this spot–but it truly is the best place to be:) In many ways…


Lana April 4, 2010 at 7:07 pm

Joy how beautiful and I so loved getting to know you. Life on a boat – wow, I can so see the free Spirit you are talking about.


Therese Miu April 4, 2010 at 8:15 pm

Hi Lovely Lana,

Just like you I love my journal. I see it as my life-long journey. It is dear to me because everything in it is about self-reflection and contains life’s meaning and value for me. I can probably think of couple more like my son Jeroen art work. I love looking at it and seeing how much creativity he truly possess and how I can nurture that side of him. The creative side. I also have love letters that my husband and I wrote to each other (and continually write to each other). We were long distance for 2 years and all we did to keep in touch was write letters. Those letters are so precious to me. Anyway I am going for a ride with your “Clarity series” I am grateful for our friendship Lana.
Thank You!
.-= Therese Miu´s last blog ..Lessons on Life from a 3 year old.from his first hiking adventure =-.


Lana April 4, 2010 at 9:46 pm

Hi Therese, thank you for sharing with us about your treasures! Creativity, family, love, self-reflection, I see so many keywords of yours here!


Mars Dorian April 4, 2010 at 11:04 pm

Good question, and I can totally relate to Sara, as my dearest object is a mere illusion of mind – my alter ego which I call Youkon. He’s pretty much the personified version of my creativity and intuition, and every time I feel stuck I “ask” him. It’s crazy but it works – he gives me a lot of clarity 😉
.-= Mars Dorian´s last blog ..Why YOU really Need a Logo ! =-.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 4:42 am

Youkon…love the name! hmm guys, I am jealous, I need someone to embody my alter ego too. Thanks for sharing, Mars!


Travis April 4, 2010 at 11:57 pm

My object is my pencil… which I know seems a bit strange, considering there are a LOT of objects that come to mind, however for me it represents an outlet for creative freedom.

A means of expression for the thoughts and ideas that roam my mind and how those thoughts and ideas help to inspire others. This was actually a pretty cool exercise… and to be honest, until I did it I never would have viewed a plain old pencil in such a light!

PS: Cool to see that you’re also a vegetarian… I’ve been one for a few years myself now, and it’s always cool to meet others who share that connection.
.-= Travis´s last blog ..Niche Blogs =-.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 4:45 am

Creative freedom is my keyword too Travis!
Exactly, some simple and seemingly superficial questions sometimes can shine the light on something really deep and important.

it’s great to meet fellow vegetarian too:)


JB King April 5, 2010 at 12:47 am

At first, I didn’t have an answer other than various abstract ideas and answers, like “finding true love” or my values as those I do hold dear for obvious reasons.

However, after some reflection I can declare that the diploma showing my degree from university is very near and dear to me. The title of the degree is a “Double Honor’s Bachelor of Mathematics with majors in Computer Science and Combinatorics & Optimization” which may garner the odd eye roll or glazed over look as there seem to be a general reaction of either, “Huh? What is that?” or “Good job on getting that, whatever it is,” that while I can understand some ignorance and that others may hold degrees with phrases I don’t understand I would probably be more tactful in finding out more about that person. Some may infer that valuing the diploma means I value education which is true, I love to learn, absolutely true.

At times I can wonder if someone gushing over something shows more about themselves than if they try to describe themselves directly, as various undertones and other inferences may be very useful. At least that is how I infer the question from another perspective that I think may be useful to share.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 4:48 am

thank you for sharing JB, it’s great getting to know you. and you are absolutely right, undertones are extremely important. they can break the deal. and very often they are very difficult to put in words or try to explain. when I realized that one of my keywords is meaning, it meant something so deep to me that I cannot even start to explain it. I can only feel it. But that feeling is enough in order for me to be clearer and happier.


Evelyn Lim April 5, 2010 at 5:57 am

My “object” is space. With space, we create meaning. Space may appear to be empty but from it, we give meaning to the objects around. Without space, things are in a clutter.
.-= Evelyn Lim´s last blog ..5 Lessons From How To Train Your Dragon =-.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 5:58 am

ohhh, I LOVE your object Evelyn!


J.D. Meier April 5, 2010 at 6:19 am

> “I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you”.
Too perfect. I was looking for those words yesterday, as I was sifting through my mind trying to capture that essence.

My gold chain makes me strong. My sister gave it to me, and it reminds me of the warrior in me (the Viking one.)
.-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..The 8 Steps to Wealth =-.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 7:27 am

gold chain and Viking – this is so YOU J.D:)


Hilary April 5, 2010 at 7:01 am

Hi Lana .. I’m going through a major challenge and change at the moment & I’ll have to making a lot of these decisions .. so life will be interesting.

But just sitting here thinking – help .. what can I talk about – my blog came to mind – it encompasses my love for my mother, my uncle and my life .. memories and learning – within its depths I express my thoughts certainly not obvious to all. Then there are the links out – my friends, whose comments and their blogs with their thoughts I value enormously. It’s my support group, my learning place, evaluating my life and helping me through .. my bouncing castle .. a soft place to land in, a chance to think while I bounce up and down .. and you’ll all be here for me in the days, weeks and months ahead.

So – yes there’ll be special things, and my family and friends, but here in the blogosphere is a special place – a chance to just be ..

Good thoughts .. love everyone’s ideas … Have a lovely Spring ..
.-= Hilary´s last blog ..Who would have thought Barbary Apes would be eating our greens? =-.


Lana April 5, 2010 at 7:31 am

Dear Hilary, thanks for your comment. Blog. How haven’t I thought of my blog? Now that I think about it, my blog right now is one of the most dearest things in my life. A place where I express myself and meet amazing people like you Hillary. I wish you lots of luck with all the changes you are going through!


Hilary April 5, 2010 at 8:54 am

Thanks Lana .. and thanks for coming over to visit my blog. The thing I forgot .. is that of course it is our asset base, our future .. we can build out so much from these spaces ..

Enjoy the Spring and your little one – green things be good for him .. as we both know .. bye for now – Hilary
.-= Hilary´s last blog ..Who would have thought Barbary Apes would be eating our greens? =-.


Steve-Personal Success Factors April 11, 2010 at 6:50 pm

Lana, I have so been looking forward to you writing a post series like this! Talking about clarity is one thing: figuring out how to get there is quite another. As for my favorite gifts/objects, I am going to hold off answering until after my run this afternoon: this will give me time to reflect on the objects and what they mean to me in terms of getting clear 🙂
.-= Steve-Personal Success Factors´s last blog ..You Can Use Gary Vaynerchuk’s Key Success Factor! =-.


Lana April 11, 2010 at 7:03 pm

Hi, Steve, I am glad the series might be helpful to you. Check out today’s post too, the second episode in the series. Just remember to not overanalyze. Usualy the first thing that comes to mind when you ask yourself the question is the right response for you.


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