Daring Clarity has finally settled down into its new domain name and here we come with new exciting changes. I will start interviewing amazing people who have tapped into their Genius and live their Truth. I will also start posting three times a week from now on (yes, it’s time to announce the schedule for my posts!)and one of the posts every other week or so  will be an interview.

Today I’d like to introduce to you Dragos Roua, successful online entrepreneur and popular personal development blogger. Dragos is a true representation for me of the person who knows his core and does everything in alignment with his heart.

What struck me the most in Dragos when I first came across his  Dragos Roua – Brilliantly Better was originality, creativity and intensity coming from his site. His posts are often controversial, unusual and just plain different from what you see online.

Recently I have read Dragos’ book – 30 Sentences for a Millionaire Mindset.  I was surprised a bit after reading it. I read Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv Eker after all. I read Think and Grow Rich. I read many others. What else could be invented there in terms of a millionaire mindset?

To my surprise I learned tons and most importantly I could apply it right away. Dragos made it extremely easy for you to apply the concepts he teaches right away.

30 Sentences for a Millionaire Mindset is, of course, not about money. It is about you acquiring the mindset of the person who can make as much money as he/she chooses to without striving, struggle and pushing. 

Choice is the keyword here. You might choose to be a millionaire or you might choose to not be. But you always know that it is Your choice.

It is also not one of those self-help/mindset books. It is a practical guide. It is simple. It is extremely easy to digest and apply.  Practicality is another keyword. Read – apply, read – apply.

It is brilliant really.

Loved it.

I will give you one of my favorite quotes from the book. Hope Dragos won’t mind.

“Working hard is not an answer. Working hard is the question. The answer is ‘No!’”

Yes! I truly believe that effort is always necessary. Struggle is optional though and it almost always comes from the wrong mindset.

So YES to less struggle! Check out the book here. It is available both in print and pdf.  BTW, the links I give are not affiliate links. Not that it matters, just letting you know.

And here is the interview with Dragos as promised. I hope it inspires you!

1. If you were to name one thing that you do better than anyone else, what would that be?

Being myself. I think I’m doing a pretty good job at it and I strive to get better at it everyday

2. What is the core feeling that drives you? (the feeling you want to experience when you reach your goals)

Enthusiasm. I’m not addicted to it but not far from being addicted either. For me, enthusiasm is what happens when my intention becomes reality. When something which was only in my mind a second earlier becomes an event, a gesture, a word, a thing, a project I want to do. Enthusiasm is the feeling that glues together my intentions and my goals. If I don’t have it, I can’t seem to transform my intention into goals. And even if I think I did, I observe later that either the intention wasn’t completely transformed, either the goals were the wrong ones.

3. What does being in the flow mean to you, when do you feel that you are in the flow? Are you in the flow now?

When I’m doing what I like when I like. Being in the flow means that no interruptions can reach me. This “flow” is like an invisible shield which protects me from a potentially toxic environment. Every time I’m able to pace together the “what I like” with the “when I like” it seems that shield gets activated.

Right now I’m in the flow because I love answering these questions and I really think this is the most appropriate moment to do it.

4. What inspires you and do you do anything on a consistent basis to stay inspired?

I get inspiration from the inside as well from the outside. Every time I reach an important milestone I create an internal representation of it. And every time I’m able to visualize that internal representation I feel really inspired.

For instance, last year I went round around the Earth by plane in a two weeks trip. That was an important milestone and its internal representation is very powerful. Every time I visualize it I feel inspired to travel more or to embark in even more challenging adventures.

But I can also get it from the outside. Usually, extreme physical performance inspires me (I’m a man, so I guess physical performance is written in my DNA). Seeing people climbing the Everest, watching a great soccer or tennis game, all these types of physical victories are making me want to replicate the feeling.

5. What books and/or movies impacted you the most in life? ‘

I was a big fan of Hemingway (and I still am). I had a lot of inspiring books at every age but Hemingway seemed to survive every age upgrade, so to speak. One of the movies which really inspired me was The Secret (leaving aside all the cheap consumerism layer).

From blogs, StevePavlina.com was an important igniter in my career (not too much now, by the way). And another great movie which is still very, very close to my heart is “Le Grand Bleu” (The Big Blue, a film by jean Luc Besson).

6. In your book you tell people to do it their own way. Have you done anything in the past that worked despite all odds just because you did it your own way?

Absolutely. I started my own company although everybody – my family included – was convinced I was going to abandon in 6-9 months. After 10 years, I did a successful exit.

7. I know you live in Romania, to give us a little glimpse into your world, what is about your country, culture, people that you are most proud of?

I’m not very nation-centric. I like to consider myself a citizen of the world, and consider my country just as a city in this huge world. But to answer your question, one thing that I like at my people is their warmth and their capacity of empathy. There are a lot of other things I don’t like (corruption and laziness being on top of everything) but I learned that they are part of that culture too.

8. If you had only 5 words to define your True Self, what would they be?

Persistent. Creative. Courageous. Curious. Loving.

9. If there were 5 famous people from the past you could invite to have dinner together, who would they be?

Jesus, Leonardo da Vinci, Alexander the Great, Marco Polo, Nefertiti.

10. If you could, what one advice would you give to your 21-year old Self?

Never change. You’re incredibly cool and you’re going to live an incredible life. Yes, it will be really tough at times, but it will well worth. Mistakes? Yes, you’re going to do plenty of them, which means you’re going to learn tremendously from this journey. Just stay exactly as you are and enjoy every step.

Thank you, Dragos,  for this great interview and for inspiring us to be Brilliantly Better. 

I urge you, my dear readers, to ask yourself  those questions as well.  You can’t imagine how much more clarity and new creative ideas you might get just by asking yourself some simple questions.

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I did it. I have moved my site to a new domain that truly reflects what I am all about and what I want to do. I am still changing some things but already feel like I am finally home here.

My dear beloved subscribers, you will be redirected to resubscribe to a new feed. I really don’t want to lose you and have tons of great things coming up for you, including but not limited to lots of love + inspiration + clarity and interviews with amazing people. Feel very grateful now that I have much more email and newsletter subsribers than RSS ones. You, guys, don’t need to do anything. Thank you, all! Love you!

Things change so rapidly now. 100 years from now no matter what you do and who you are, there is a very high chance that people won’t remember your name.

The truth is – you are not that important at all. Not only no one will remember your name, no one really cares much about you and what you do now.

You are not important. If you disappear now, the world will still go on. Some will cry but they will forget and move on much quicker than you think.

Your existence doesn’t matter.

Life is short. Time flies. When it’s over, it’s over. We won’t talk about life after death here.

Who you are and what you do doesn’t matter.

This is the truth.

Scary? Maybe. Liberating? For sure!

How often are we afraid to do what we want to do or be who we want to be just because others won’t approve, or it is too uncomfortable, or we gotta do this job first, or because there is sure still plenty of time left. Guess what, none of that matter. Because you are not that important and no one cares.

And also, no, you don’t have that much time left. I don’t recommend worrying about that now, but still.

No one will remember you in 100 years.

Does it really matter now if you do that job or go to that appointment or write your next blog post? No, nothing matters.

Besides one little thing.

You being You

You allowing yourself to be who you are. You stepping into your Greatness and doing what brings you joy. You finding your True bold dreams and going after them .

No one will remember anyway. You might as well stop trying to fit in, stop striving, stop pushing , stop being a victim of circumstances and just allow yourself to be YOU and do what YOU want to do and what makes your soul sing.

Being yourself is the only thing you can do to make a difference. This is the truth too. And it will liberate you. The True You.

Let go of everything that doesn’t feel right.

Start that business you always dreamed of starting. Yes, I know your business plan is not ready and your spouse doesn’t approve and you simply don’t know much about starting a business. Start anyway. Now.

Talk about your outrageous dream out loud even though others might laugh. Your outrageous dream doesn’t have to be to save the world. It might be very trivial, everything is relative. But it is Your dream. Dare to claim it. Dare to commit to it.

Ask that girl on a date. Yes, she might reject you, but who cares. No one will remember little unimportant  you anyway.

Forget the rules. No sex on the first date?  Don’t have sex just for the sake of breaking the rules, but have it if it feels right.  

Leave that relationship that doesn’t support your Vision. It might be uncomfortable; it might be inconvenient, but how liberating!

If you go with your True Self, you cannot go wrong. Because everything your True Self wants is aligned with Love. And Love never goes wrong.

How to embrace the truth and reinvent Yourself

Don’t be afraid to start over. Rewrite your story. Start a new business if the old one doesn’t resonate with who you are. Rewrite your message. I am changing blog’s URL because my old one just doesn’t fit my Authentic Vision. Yes, I am used to the old one, I tried hard to make it fit what I want to do, I tried to make my Authentic Vision to align with it (you don’t align your Vision with what you do, you align what you do with your Vision, see the difference?), I am likely to lose subscribers and I have 250 pretty business cards printed with the old URL.

So what? Living the truth is worth it.

I took down the product and cancelled the membership program I had few months ago cutting down a substantial part of my income at the time because they didn’t resonate with who I was .  I stopped working on a business that just didn’t bring me joy.

Change is scary. Face your fears and do it anyway.  It is scarier to stay stuck where you don’t belong.

I got my first client within a week of starting my new coaching program. I actually was afraid I overpriced it but people saw value and I could deliver what promised. The feeling I get doing what is aligned with who I am is incredible. The feeling I get seeing my clients’ a-ha moments when they “get clear” is unbelievable. It’s great to be useful. Change turned out to  be not as scary as I thought it would be.

Find your Core. Find what is true to you. What brings you joy? What do you love doing the most? What are you great at? Start doing it. The more, the better.  

Ask. If not sure  where to start, ask yourself – How can I do it, where do I start? And then go about your day knowing that your True Self will send you the answer. It always does. Just let go and listen. Once you hear it, don’t ignore. Write it down. See how you can act on it.

Trust. Have faith. Allow the Universe to provide. Stop stressing out about “how”. “How” is not your problem. It will come when you have faith.

Remember, the only thing you really want is to be yourself. This is your life’s purpose – be Yourself, live Your dreams, sing Your song.

This is the truth. And it does set you free if you let it.

I honestly cannot believe I am writing this post. In fact, I already have several posts lined up ready to be published. But here I am sitting and writing this one.

This blog is about clarity, following your true calling, discovering your True Self, getting you in the flow. I am here to inspire you. We are talking high material, baby!

“Raising animals for food is one of the top two or three most significant contributors to the most serious environmental problems, at every scale from local to global.” – United Nations

And still here I am getting ready to write about eating animals’ flesh. How is that for an inspiration and high material?

How does it relate to clarity? Directly actually. I got so much of it now that I stopped eating animals that I cannot believe I haven’t done it earlier. I am also much healthier, have tons of energy and turns out save the planet all at the same time. Enough to get me in the flow.

I just had someone tell me that it is not fun to eat healthy. That’s the most unconscious statement that I heard in a while. And that’s what motivated me to write this post.

Is it not fun to feel good? To have more energy? More clarity? To live longer? To look better? To make more money after all, because that what at the end of the day more clarity means to our bottom line? To ensure you give the best to your kids? Are all of those things really not fun?

Why 7 seconds of pleasure? The term was invented by my dear friend Vicky Shemer, an avid supporter of green and healthy living . Because that’s really how long on average it takes you to chew food before you swallow it.

Am I really hoping to change anyone’s opinion here regarding eating or not eating meat? Not really. But this blog is also about conscious living.  Conscious living involves conscious choices. You cannot make conscious choices if you don’t know the facts.

I’ll give you the facts. No pressure. Just read them.  Whatever you decide – whether give vegan or vegetarian diet a try or not, I am sure that choice will be the right one for you.

I won’t judge either way and still think you are awesome and still would love to go out with you for lunch some day. I hope you’ll feel the same way towards me.

Why?

I have a pet bird. Little green cheek conure. I love cats and dogs as pets but they are too messy for me at the moment, I have a three year old son after all and have more than enough cleaning up to do.

Getting a little bird for him was a great alternative. They love each other.

Her name is Abby and she has a brain smaller than a walnut. (Why am I talking about pet bird??) I know, but wait a minute.

Abby literally gets offended when I come home and not say hi to her. You can tell it. She needs attention. She has feelings. I bet she would die if all we were doing were feeding her and cleaning her cage.  Hold that thought for me.

Peta.org claims that research has proved that chickens are smarter than dogs, cats and even some primates. In a natural setting, a mother hen begins to teach her chicks various calls before they even hatch-she clucks softly to them while sitting on the eggs and the chirp back at her. Unfortunately, chickens in factory farms never meet their mothers.

My Abby gets offended when I don’t talk to her. She is not a chicken of course, but still.

Most small farms now have been replaced by massive corporate run factory farms in which chickens, pigs, turkeys and cows are treated like machines instead of living, feeling individuals.

Chickens raised and killed for their flesh spend their entire lives in filthy, ammonia-laden sheds with tens of thousands of other birds. Ammonia levels in chicken farms are so high that the corrosive substance burns the birds’ lungs and skin. Most chicken suffer from chronic respiratory disease, weakened immune system and bronchitis. I am not even speaking about drugs they are dosed with to grow quicker.

Men’s Health magazine ranked chicken as the number one food you should never eat because of its high rate of bacterial contamination.

After six weeks in these horrible conditions, the birds are roughly thrown into cages and then they are shipped through all weather extremes to slaughterhouse.

I won’t go into details of how they are killed, you got the picture.

I know, living consciously is tough sometimes.

Still reading? Ok.

Birds who are raised for their eggs are packed, five to 11 at a time, into wire cages that are so small that they don’t have enough room to spread even a single wing. Their wings and legs atrophy from disuse and their legs and feet become deformed from standing on a slanted wire cage bottoms.

Their sensitive peaks are cut off without any pain killers.

There is no one single federal law that protects animals in factory farms, while a recent Gallup survey showed that 96% of Americans believe that animals deserve legal protection.

I won’t talk about cows and pigs here and how they are treated. Do you own research if you wish.

You might argue that you buy only cage free eggs and organic grass fed beef.

Look at other facts below:

Health:

Obesity is one of the most pressing health problems in United States and will soon become country’s leading cause of preventable deaths. Despite the growing number of “diets” that are being touted through the country, Americans just keep getting fatter. A government review of all studies on weight loss found that two thirds of dieters gain weight back within a year and 97% gain it all back within five years. This fluctuation is worse than being overweight. These dieters would have been better off if they hadn’t even bothered.

It’s proven that protein diets don’t work either. Atkins himself died at 258 pounds.

The only weight loss plan that has been proved scientifically to take weight off and keep it off for more than a year is vegan diet.

I never had problems with weight. The biggest factor for me to give up meat was stronger immune system for me and my son. I go crazy even when he gets minor cold, I’d do anything if it means him getting those colds less and being healthier overall.

Other big benefits for me, just like I said already, were incredible mind clarity that I’ve got as a result and much more energy I have now throughout the day. Just those benefits are enough for me to become a big fan.

But let’s see other facts.

“You’ll live longer. Vegetarians live about seven years longer, and vegans (who eat no animal products) about 15 years longer than meat eaters, according to a study from Loma Linda University.

You’ll save your heart. Cardiovascular disease is still the number one killer in the United States, and the standard American diet (SAD) that’s laden with saturated fat and cholesterol from meat and dairy is largely to blame. Children as young as age 3 who are raised on fast food and junk food show early signs of heart disease, according to the Bogalusa Heart Study done at the Louisiana State University.

Today, the average American male eating a meat-based diet has a 50 percent chance of dying from heart disease. His risk drops to 15 percent if he cuts out meat; it goes to 4 percent if he cuts out meat, dairy and eggs.

You’ll help reduce famine. Right now, 72 percent of all grain produced in the United States is fed to animals raised for slaughter. It takes 15 pounds of feed to get one pound of meat. But if the grain were given directly to people, there’d be enough food to feed the entire planet. In addition, using land for animal agriculture is inefficient in terms of maximizing food production. According to the journal Soil and Water, one acre of land could produce 50,000 pounds of tomatoes

You’ll avoid toxic chemicals. The EPA estimates that nearly 95 percent of pesticide residue in our diet comes from meat, fish and dairy products. Fish, in particular, contain carcinogens (PCBs, DDT) and heavy metals (mercury, arsenic; lead, cadmium) that cannot be removed through cooking or freezing. Meat and dairy products are also laced with steroids and hormones.

You’ll help to bring down the national debt. United States spends between $60 billion to $120 billion annually to treat the heart disease, cancer, obesity, and food poisoning that are byproducts of a diet heavy on animal products.” Source Peta.org

Global warming

According to recent United Nations report, the meat industry causes more global warming (through emissions of carbon dioxide, methane an d nitrous oxide) than all cars, trucks, SUVs, planes and ships in the world combined. Researchers at the University of Chicago determined that switching to a vegan diet is 50% more effective than switching from a regular car to a hybrid in reducing your impact on global warming.

Water Resources

More than half of all the water consumed in the U.S. is used to raise animals for food. A totally vegetarian diet requires 300 gallons of water per day, while meat based diet requires more than 4,000 gallons of water per day.

Pollution

Farmed animals produce about 130 times as much excrement as the entire human population of the United States. According to the Environmental Protection Agency, the runoff from factory farms pollutes our rivers and lakes more than all other industrial sources combined.

There are tons of other facts I could have included here but you can do your own research.

Live consciously

That’s what I believe conscious living is all about – knowing the facts, knowing the risks and benefits and I think most importantly being open minded enough to give something a try to be able to make an informed decision based on facts and personal experience.

I strongly believe that at the end of the day benefits of such diet clearly and loudly outweight the downside of it.  And again I believe that most of the downside comes in the form of you giving up 7 seconds of pleasure you get while chewing the meat before you swallow it.

Are those 7 seconds of pleasure really worth it?

Those are just my beliefs, they are  biased and I was hesitant to write about them so strongly. But again your beliefs might be totally different and I accept them. My main goal here was to educate you, give you facts and tell you about my personal experience.

“If anyone wants to save the planet, all they have to do is just stop eating meat. It’s staggering when you think about it. Vegetarianism takes care of so many things in one shot: ecology, famine, cruelty.”  - Sir Paul  McCartney.

Give it a try or don’t give it a try. And most importantly whatever you decide-  know with your whole fiber that this is the right decision for you. I definitely don’t want you to eat meat and feel bad about doing it. This would bring more harm than anything else. If you are already vegan or vegetarian, let us know about your experience in the comments below.

Own your decision.

Live consciously!

I started guest posting just like promised in my New Year Resolutions. Tess Marshall who is a total inspiration to me offered me to publish a guest post on her blog The Bold Life and I gladly agreed.  I love Tess. She is real, she is bold and there is an incredible energy coming from her.

Head over there, read my post, I put lots of practical steps you can use to align your soul and your mind to help you reach your impossible dreams.  Don’t forget to subscribe. You want to live a bold life, right?  I know I do.

This is Part Two inspired by my “you can’t go There if you don’t leave Here first” post.

My previous post could have implied otherwise but  I wanted to make it clear – I love my Here and Now.

In fact this is the questions I ask myself every  day – am I loving my here and now?

This is my #1 goal, this is my biggest and the most outrageous dream, this is my ultimate desire – love my Here and Now.

Yes, there are people that annoy me, there are relationships that I want to let go of, there are goals I am headed towards, there are thousands of things I want to improve or, OK,– grow in myself.

But I do love those people who annoy me, I do love the relationships I am in the process of letting go of, I do love the goals I haven’t reached yet and really wish they came to me easier and with less effort and I absolutely, undeniably love and adore myself Here and Now with all of my imperfections and thousands of points I have on my list I have to work on to improve or, again,-grow in myself.

I love my Here and Now. I adore it. Even when I hate it I still love it. I want to learn to be fully in it. Every moment. Every breath. I want to always be Here and love it.

Contradiction? Maybe? Doesn’t make any sense? I don’t think so.

Why would you even want to not love your Now?

What is the point of reaching your goals? They will become your Now. Your Now – -that you don’t love. Your Now –that you want to get rid of.

Is your Now an obstacle that you want to overcome? But that’s exactly what you’ll get more of – obstacles to overcome, things to improve, areas to grow, relationships to let go of, goals to reach again and again and again… Until you die.

You might as well start loving that stuff now. Because it will always be your Now.

Take a deep breath.

Look around.

Stop for a minute and say – I love you. I love you my Here and Now.

You are perfect with your imperfections and I am so grateful because no matter what -you are here for me.

What are your relationships with your Here and Now? Is it an obstacle to overcome, to run through to the next goal? Or is it a blessing, a cherished  gift?

Stop and love it. Otherwise, what’s the point?

You can’t go somewhere and stay where you are at the same time. It is the law of nature. No exceptions.

 Makes sense doesn’t it? But so often that’s exactly what we are trying to do – be in both places at the same time..

I was talking to a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. Very good old friend. Wonderful person, we share memories and we had so much in common in the past.

She is still Here. She is completely and totally Here. Here, where I am moving out of. 

I can’t take her with me. And I do want to go.  But I realized that subconsciously I resisted.

 Subconsciously I didn’t want to give up this friendship even though there was not much left from the friendship we once had.

She doesn’t understand me anymore, I don’t understand her. The whole idea of following the passion is kind of ridiculous to her. The idea of NOT doing it is ridiculous to me. 

But I would purposely make myself smaller when talking to her.  I wouldn’t show how much I changed. I would be like her.

Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with her and I don’t judge. But we are different now and if I stay in that circle, it means I have to be like that circle because that circle doesn’t accept anything different.

Fear of greatness. Fear of being different. Comfort zone. But I’ll talk about those in a different post.

In this post I want to say loud and clear: You can’t stay here if you want to go there. It is impossible. It is against the laws of nature. No exceptions.

What are you resisting letting go of?

What is holding you where you want to move on from? You might be surprised if you look closer.

I, of course, knew about letting go of the old to accept the new and I thought I did it. Only lately did I notice that there still were some things in my life that I was resisting letting go of.

So look closer, what do you need to let go?

What is not allowing you to move where you want to go?

Look at people in your life. Are they in alignment with who you want to be? Do they support you in your vision?

Try doing the following:

Close your eyes. Imagine your Ideal Day. What do you see there? Now open your eyes and write down what or who in your life is not vibrationally aligned with your Ideal Day.

I am not saying to get rid of everyone and everything ruthlessly. Some friends will support you even if they won’t go all the way there with you. But what about those that make you play small, that don’t support nor understand you, that are simply too out of sync with your Vision.

Let them go. Don’t regret.

If you want to be the new you, if you want to tap into your Greatness, Into Your True Self, you have to let go of everything that holds you back.

Just take a deep breath. And decide to let go. 

 I did. And it feels great. 

Part 2 of this post is coming soon.

Live consciously, Be Yourself, Follow Your Dreams!

I am in the flow.

What does this phrase mean to you?

I am aligned. Everything is working out. Life is moving me forward. I am dancing with life instead of resisting and pushing. I live with ease. I live with passion. I love what I do.

I am in the flow.

Are you in the flow? Or do you remember the time in your life when you were?

Ideas, opportunities, and people seemed to show up right in time, moving you forward where you wanted to go. Serendipities followed you everywhere.

Small and seemingly insignificant events had a whole new meaning for you because they were there to show you – you are on the right track.

You felt excited, motivated, inspired.

You found your muse.

And you rolled with it.

You lived!

You do know what I am talking about, right? I know you do. You might be in the flow now. Or I bet you remember at least one period in your life when you were in the flow. It might have been short or it might have been long. But I know you know what I talking about.

Where did all that magic come from?

You tapped into your Inner Genius. You tapped into your Inner Source of Creativity, Inspiration, Motivation and Wisdom.

We all have that Inner Genius that can help us with anything. That Inner Source of Creativity that is ready to provide us with a million ideas about how to make our dreams a reality. That Inner Source of Wisdom to help with taking action on opportunities.

It is inside of us waiting for us to reconnect with it.

Maybe you got disconnected from the source and never found your way back. Or maybe living in connection with it is your everyday reality. Lucky you, if it is the latter.

All the success stories you hear are about people who tapped into the source.  Success rarely has anything to do with luck. In fact I don’t believe in luck, but I guess it is just the matter of how we define certain terms.

And I am even going to dare to say that success rarely has anything to do with hard work alone (don’t throw stones at me yet, let me explain).

Sure, both luck and hard work might take place but they took place because the connection to the source was there. It might have been weak or it might have been strong but it was there.

I truly believe that big and authentic success can’t come only because of luck or hard work. If you are completely disconnected you’ll never find enough motivation to keep up with the hard work.  And luck will never ring its charms on you.

All the answers are truly inside of us. All we have to do is to learn how to connect with the source on a regular basis and you will always be in the flow.

So without postponing it any further, how do you connect to your Inner Genius?

How do you get in the flow?

Here are the exact steps to follow:

Find who you are. “Know thyself” for centuries has been proclaimed to be a key to happiness, meaning and fulfillment. Do you know who you truly are? What are you good at? What  are you passionate about? What are your values?

Do this quick exercise for me. Grab a piece of paper. Now close your eyes and imagine your Best Self. Imagine a time when you are at your best – you look the best, you feel the best, you are happy with yourself, you act exactly the way your Best Self would act.

 Get into that feeling of being your Best Self. Now open your eyes and write down 7-10 words that describe your Best Self. Courage, trust, powerful, sophisticated,… what are your words?

Don’t think. Don’t analyze. Just write them down. That’s going to give you a good glimpse into your True Self. There are tons of other exercises you can do to discover who you truly are.

Find yourself. Don’t postpone. This is the only way to get in the flow and stay there.

Write down your life purpose statement. Now expanding from the step above, come up with your life purpose statement. You can read this series to help you with that.

They often say you don’t discover your life purpose, you create it, and I totally agree. As long as it resonates with you on a deep level, inspires you and is clearly stated, you got it right.

Come up with your Vision. Having an authentic vision aligned with who you are and your life purpose is the next step.  Your Vision should answer two questions – what and why. What you want your life to be and why you want it. Write it down.

Get clear on your goals aligned with your True Self, your Life purpose and your Authentic Vision. Write them down as clearly as possible.

Clarity

Everything we were doing  up until now was to help us gain true clarity. 95% of the population lives without that degree of clarity. Are you going to be in the winning 5%?

I believe and saw many examples that true clarity can create miracles.

Live consciously. Why? Because this is the only way to ensure you live every day aligned with your True Self, your Purpose, your Vision and your goals. When you live consciously and with awareness you won’t allow yourself to slip into the old patterns. You won’t allow your limiting beliefs to distract you.

You’ll live your Vision fully.

If you do all of the above, there is a very high chance you’ll get in the flow. Your Inner Genius will wake up and start doing everything to help you along the way. But in order for you to not disconnect again make sure you do the following regularly as well.

Spend time with yourself. What are the activities you do that reconnect you with your True Self?  It might be journaling, it might be meditating, it might be reading a book or listening to some particular music. What makes you feel inspired? What makes you vibrate high?  Whatever it is, find it.

Do it regularly no matter how busy you might be. Remember, if you lose your connection, no amount of hard work will help you to reach your goals.

If you stay connected though, if you are in the flow, hard work will never feel like hard work. You’ll enjoy it. You’ll be motivated to keep up with it. You’ll be inspired. You’ll have tons of ideas. And see opportunities everywhere you go.

You’ll be in the flow.

And you’ll get the results that you want.

Most importantly, you’ll enjoy the journey.

That’s all that really matters.

Remember, happiness is a process, not a destination.

Notes: As you might have noticed with major blog redesign I am also very excited to launch my coaching that I’ve been doing only offline up until now.  This is exactly what my coaching is designed to help you with – to get clear and to get in the flow. And I give you the tools to stay there —  I create a custom made visualization CD just for you to help you get aligned with your Authentic Vision. Check it out.

I used to have a belief for a long period of my life that people didn’t like me.

This is by the way one of the top ten limiting beliefs people have.

I used to have that belief in a slightly exaggerated form though.

It was coming from childhood and from my mom’s desire to have an easy going and communicative child which I never was.

She used to always directly or indirectly try to change me. I have a great mom by the way, she did what she thought would be the best for me. But as a result of that I formed a belief that people didn’t like me the way I was.

Anyway, I realized that I had that belief a long time ago.

I also realized that it was just a belief and that it limited me a lot in life since it didn’t allow me to fully express who I was and made me very insecure.

The nature of our beliefs is very tricky. When we have a belief about something we’ll always find proof of that belief in the external world.

When I had this belief that people didn’t like me, that’s what I was noticing everywhere I went.

Of course, there were (and still are) plenty of people who love me. But I simply ignored them and focused on those who didn’t.  That in turn reinforced my belief and made it even stronger.

Quite a vicious cycle.

When I started living more consciously, I started reevaluating my beliefs.

One thing I learned was that often just becoming aware of the limiting belief was enough to let it go.

Ahh Awareness… It can truly create miracles.

Well, unfortunately, with some deeply rooted beliefs not everything is that easy.

I let go of the belief partially but not all of it. How did I know?

Awareness helped again. I told you it’s a powerful tool.

I started noticing (became aware of) occasions when the belief reappeared again.

I think one of them was when I sent a friend request to a person on FB who I was really interested to become friends with and the person didn’t respond to the request for several  days. The first thought I had was that the person didn’t like what I had written in the message I sent, which was pretty silly to think, but I did.

The thought was very quick and then I immediately realigned myself realizing how stupid it was to think that (state of awareness again).

I had a couple of other occasions like that one and those brief thoughts or reactions that I became aware of showed me that the belief is still there.

I let it go quickly and don’t allow it to make my life miserable anymore because I am aware of it. But it would be so nice to not have it at all, to let it go out of my life completely.

And I think I finally did.

How did I do that?

Instead of trying to fight my limiting belief that people don’t like me, I decided to consciously let go of my need for approval by others.

I consciously decided that from now on I will allow people to not like me (as if they ever cared about my permissionJ). I allowed myself to be okay with people not liking me.

I made a decision and I also wrote it down – “I am completely fine when someone doesn’t like me and I allow them to feel towards me the way they please”.

So I attacked the belief from a different angle. It is still there but I don’t care about it anymore since I don’t care about people liking me or not anymore. Well, I probably still do but I am not attached to it.

What are the beliefs you have that bother you? Are you even aware of your limiting beliefs? Becoming aware is the first and most important step of stopping those beliefs from ruling your life and dictating you how you are going to think, feel and act.

Become aware first and then see how you can completely get rid of them.

Find a different angle to your belief just like I did and let it go.

But before you do that you have to learn how to become aware, right? Without awareness you’ll continue living on autopilot at the mercy of your limiting beliefs.

How to become aware:

Stop and ask why. Ask why you are thinking, feeling and acting the way you do. Why are you afraid to do something? Does it really make sense? Or is it some limiting belief of yours stopping you from taking action? Stop and ask, often just that is enough to uncover limiting beliefs.

Watch your language. Notice how you speak. Do you have lots of negative phrases in your vocabulary? Do you have lots of – “It won’t work”, “I don’t think I can do it”, “this is unrealistic”,  “they won’t approve” etc? Do you have any  “Would be nice but…”,  “I’d love to but I should..”,  “I don’t want to but I have to…”  Watch how you speak and you’ll become aware of your limiting beliefs.

Watch your thoughts. What are the thoughts that run through your mind? Are there lots of those that make you a victim, criticize you, complain etc? Notice the patterns, find limiting beliefs. Become aware. Only after that can you let them go.

Start noticing your second reaction to something. Your first reaction usually comes from your soul and is true.  You second reaction might be different and it is when your limiting beliefs kick in.

When I wanted to send a friend request to a person I talked about earlier, I was excited. Then the second reaction came and my limiting belief kicked in – she might not have liked what I had written (people don’t like you, don’t you remember?)

Write it down. When you become aware of your limiting thoughts, words, reactions– write them down. Otherwise you’ll forget.

Meditate. Meditation is the number one tool that helps with the state of awareness. It helps us to become an observer.

Without becoming more aware you won’t be able to stop and ask why. You’ll continue on autopilot doing what you were doing. You won’t be able to notice your limiting language patterns or your second reactions. All of that is possible only when you are aware, when you are observing.

After you became aware of some of the limiting beliefs that hold you back in life, see how you can let them go completely.

Find the angle that will help you get rid of any need to have that negative belief.

Release your attachment to the thing you are so afraid of.

Let go.

Free yourself up.

You’ll love it, I promise.

Live Consciously, Be Yourself, Follow Your Dreams!

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I believe there are two points in our lives that transform us into action taking machines.

Those are the points when we forget about our worries, our doubts, our fears and just take consistent and focused action toward our goals until we reach them.

The first point is when you are pushed against the wall and you really don’t have another choice but to actually make it work, to actually do whatever it takes to reach the goal. All of us probably were at that point at least once in our lives.

Your survival mode turns on and it is either you make it or you die. No time for worries, doubts, procrastination etc. You just act.

Another point is the point of whatever . I’ll explain that one in a minute.

Pure Intention.
Both points transform your desire into pure intention. Pure intention is when you don’t double think.

Just like when you want to go to the store and buy milk. You don’t sit there and think whether you should do it or not. You don’t procrastinate. You don’t worry or doubt. You just go to the store and get milk.

That is the action caused by pure intention.

Action like this one brings results. Always.

Don’t you wish you were able to take that kind of action toward all important goals of yours?

I won’t talk today about the first point of when you are pushed against the wall. Not everyone is in the situation of when you have no other choices and have to act if you want to survive. Many of us are pretty comfortable where we are.

Yes, we would like to be more and reach more but the pain of reaching the goal in our mind is really bigger than the pain of staying where we are. So we don’t act. We sabotage ourselves by procrastinating, doubting, worrying, fearing.

That’s where the point of whatever comes in handy.

What is the point of whatever?

It is the point where you completely let go. You are unattached. You know that you’ll be fine either way-whether you reach the goal or you don’t.

You still want it and you want it bad, this is very important to understand. But you don’t care at the same time.

There is a very fine line between the point of whatever and completely giving up on your goals.

You don’t give up. You desire. You want it. But you let go and know without a shadow of a doubt that you’ll be fine no matter what.

Why did you have those worries and fears and doubts that were sabotaging you from taking action to begin with? Most likely because you were afraid to fail, right?
Fear of failure is what prevents us from trying to begin with.

By letting go of your attachment to the outcome, you let go of your fear of failure.

This is the point of whatever.

This is the point where your doubts and worries and fears that stopped you from acting before, leave you. Since you are not attached to the outcome anymore, why have all of those emotions?

You are in a state of: “I am going to take action. Period. I don’t care if I fail. I don’t care if people won’t approve. I don’t care of all the other things I was so scared of before. I am just doing it. Because I still want it even though I let go.”

Pure Intention. Pure Desire. Pure Action.

No time spent anymore on worrying. No time spent on contemplation why this won’t work or how to do that better or how maybe you should try something else.

You just act. And then act again. And Again.

Failure doesn’t exist anymore. It is simply not an option. You threw it out of your vocabulary.

Something doesn’t work, not a big deal. You try something else. And something else. And again.

Until the goal is reached.

So how do you come to the point of whatever?
I love giving bullet points at the end that you can apply right away but this one is tough.

There is no one recipe for letting go. Here are some of the suggestions I have:

1. Imagine yourself as if you were 85 years old. Look back at your life from your 85 years old point of view.

What would you regret more – having lots of failures or not attempting to do what you wanted to do to begin with. Would you even care about your failures at that time? I bet you wouldn’t.

2. Close your eyes, relax, take several deep breaths and say to yourself: “I let this desire go. I truly let it go.” Feel your body letting go. Know that you’ll be fine no matter what.

3. Commit. This one is counterintuitive. How can you commit to something and not care about it at the same time? You actually can. Commit to taking action no matter what it takes. But don’t care about the outcome.

4. Live in the present moment. Visualize your goal only as an end result that you wish to reach but think about it lightly, as if you were just seeing a movie. Do it just for fun.

Then return to your present moment and focus on your present moment not allowing yourself to go into worrying about “hows”

5. Decide. Just make a conscious decision to let go and remind yourself about this decision often until it is engrained into your brain.

Do whatever works for you to let go of your attachment to a particular outcome.

Desire it. Want it. Commit to taking action but don’t be attached to the outcome.

Let go. Don’t care.

Remember you are doing it to help yourself with taking consistent action. You are doing it to stop sabotaging yourself. You are doing it to make the fear of failure nonexistent for yourself.

Plus the journey to your goals is going to be so much more fun when you don’t cling to them.

Get to the point of whatever. And take action.

What are you going to let go of today?