Neutrality is not a new concept. Lost your job? Neutral. Marriage sucks? Neutral. Found the love of your life? Neutral. It’s all neutral. It’s all just an experience.

Your mind gives “good” or “bad” interpretation to it, but ultimately…neutral.

What are you resisting in your life now?

You know that what you resist persists. We all know that.

Theoretically sounds great – just stop resisting the situation. Be in it. Accept it and see it dissolve on its own.

Stop worrying about money. Stop worrying about your marriage. Stop worrying about – how much longer I am going to be here. Here… where I don’t want to be anymore.

When will Change come? Easily and effortlessly. Preferably without me doing the hard work.

My divorce has been going on forever already. I am so ready to be over with it. But it doesn’t seem to end any time soon. How do you not resist something like this?

The thing is – it won’t end until I accept Here and Now. Until I stop resisting.  Hard work might not be necessary but dropping resistance is.

Sometimes it might happen naturally – when you are resisting something for too long, eventually you’ll get tired. You’ll say – who cares. But it might take awhile to get to that point. Often it works faster to consciously decide to stop resisting.

“When you surrender and stop resisting and stop trying to change that which you can’t change, but be in the moment, be fully open to the blessings you’ve already received and those that are yet to come & stand in that space of gratitude … and look at where you are and how far you’ve come and what you’ve accomplished …- when you can claim THAT and SEE that, the literal vibration of your life will change.” Oprah

This quote goes perfectly with today’s post. Few things that help me to stop resistance are:

1. Compared to what?

Each time you notice yourself judging anything as good or bad, ask yourself – compared to what? I don’t like how my body looks. Compared to whose body? My relationship with my partner could be better. Compared to what? I don’t have enough money. Compared to what?

When you ask yourself those questions you realize that your good or bad are so relative. Then you realize that everything is neutral. Then you realize that you are doing much better than you thought. And then hopefully you stop resisting as much.

2. Physically relax into the situation that causes resistance.

Think of your situation. What do you resist? What are you unhappy with? Feel the resistance and tension in your body. Now breathe into it. And relax.

3. Most importantly stop resisting your own resistance. I’ve done that for awhile. If you are already resisting a lot and the situation really sucks (according to your mind’s interpretation, of course… but still), admit it. Claim it. Say that it sucks. And that you hate it. And wish it was over …like RIGHT now.

Only after that do steps  1 and 2. Denial is not necessary.

And then keep reminding yourself that everything is just an experience.

Look back at your life. I bet you’ll remember many situations when what looked not so good at the time turned out to be for the best after all. It truly is all for the best. There is a lesson in everything. The one that will bring you closer to who you are meant to be.

Stop resisting. Let go.

I hope

My dream comes true

I hope

My dream is you

I know

My love is endless

I know

I will give you my best

I will

Honor and worship you

I will

Love and protect you

I can

Make you happy and loved

I can

Give you the love from above

Short but true

I love YOU.

This poem was written for me 7 years ago by my soon to be ex-husband. He wrote me over 100 poems since then. I’ve been rereading them all today remembering how this Love started.

These days we have hard time speaking with each other and some of the things he does make me think –where did love go?

But today he was getting our son to go to the park in the morning while I was still in bed and Nicholas ran upstairs to get something from my room. David chased after him and got him out of the room quickly, whispering – “Mommy is tired, let her sleep. ”

He thought I didn’t hear. But I heard. And that one simple act made me realize – Love is still here. It is buried under layers of hurt and resentment but it is still here. It didn’t go anywhere. It is Love after all. It can’t go away.

Sometimes Love is not enough. Not enough to stay together. Not enough to be happy.

But it is everywhere. If you are willing to see it. And no matter what – it is beautiful.

I made more mistakes in this relationship than I can count. He made lots of mistakes too that I know he regrets about now.  I forgive him, have forgiven a long time ago actually.

And today I forgive myself too. For everything. For breaking my vows. I said “I am going to be with you always” when we were getting married. How silly was I assuming I knew what future holds.

I’ll never promise “forever” to anyone anymore. I will promise “Now”.  I choose to live in the present moment. With less expectations. And more joy that comes as a result.  That seems to be working much better so far.

There are so many  things that I am grateful for. Lessons I learned, experiences we shared, our son, new life I got as a result of this marriage. I am truly grateful. And I let go. I am sorry for all the dreams that didn’t come true. But in place of those old dreams new dreams came into being. More authentic dreams.

I hope he finds what he was looking for in this marriage with a woman who’ll be able to truly appreciate him for who he is.

I know that I will always be grateful  for all we had together and for the person I became because of this relationship.

I will stay happy and optimistic no matter how messy this divorce might get.

I can get through this and so can you if you are going through a difficult period in your life.

Love is everywhere. Take a deep breath. Feel it. It’s right next to you.

Where do you want to go next?

No matter how difficult things might be now, get clear on what you want next. It might look too far stretched. It might seem too unbelievable at the moment. But get clear now.

You never know what the Universe has  in store for you. It really might surprise you.

I got clear on what I want my new relationship to be like before it was even time to start thinking about thinking about anything new. And I think I am really close to getting what I wanted.

Find a new dream. Write a new poem. Sing a new song.

This world is abundant. It loves you. And it wants to give you what you want. Just get clear and allow yourself to accept it.

P.S. Thank you to everyone who commented, emailed and called me after my last post. It feels really great to know I have so many supportive friends around me. I love you, my darlings!

In the past few weeks I’ve been going in and out of the state of depression without realizing it. I don’t even want to use this word here  – depression. Too strong for me. I never viewed myself as someone who would experience something like this.

I am an optimistic person. Sometimes to the point of where it is stupid. The sky might be falling and I will be standing there and thinking –It is for the best. And everything truly is for the best. But sometimes being always positive and optimistic is not the best thing to do.

In the  last few weeks I went numb. I bet you noticed that considering there was almost no posts on this blog.

Main reason? My divorce. Divorce that I tried so hard to make not a big deal out of.

Let me tell you. It is a big deal. Freaking big and quite stressful deal. Especially when there are kids involved.

For whatever reason I was afraid to admit it. I was afraid to face it.

I painted a nice picture in my mind of us peacefully getting divorced but staying best friends who share a child and spend time together often. Didn’t quite work out that way. We are to the point of hardly speaking with each other.

And our son is in the middle of it all. I so wanted to prevent him from seeing us like this. He sees it all now.

So there I was. In the middle of a quite stressful divorce trying to convince myself that it was not a big deal. I would repeat over and over again to myself and everyone else around that it was just an experience. I am moving to a better place. Everything is good. I would also throw a joke there when someone asked.

Complete denial.

And to make the situation more ironic I met an amazing person who I really like and who likes me back. When I am with him life is secure, exciting, unbelievable. But then I get back to reality where there is “soon to be ex-husband”, his “moods” and all other kinds of stuff related to our divorce.

So I went numb. At first I thought that I just needed a little break. Read my previous post. But turned out it was more than that.

I literally wanted to become invisible for the outside world. Opening my email was a painful task. I haven’t checked Facebook or Twitter in forever. I wasn’t checking my voicemail, nor returning phone calls.

My dear friends and everyone who emailed or called me in the last few weeks and didn’t get a response, I really hope you didn’t take it personally.

All I wanted to do on the most days was sleep.

The funny thing is that I was still not realizing what was happening.

To make it worse I stopped working almost completely. I wasn’t promoting my coaching nor my newly released product in any way and wasn’t even responding to coaching requests I was getting. Quite an irresponsible thing to do when you are getting divorced with a child.

Everything that had such meaning to me became meaningless.

So when the stack of bills on the desk became bigger and the feeling of “I don’t even want to look at them because I don’t know how I am gonna pay all of that now that I don’t know who I am” became unbearable, it finally hit me –  something is really wrong.

That’s when I  faced it. The denial was over.

Yes, I am in a damn stressful situation. Yes, it didn’t work out the way I wanted it to. Yes, I am not as strong as I always thought I was. And, yes, divorce sucks. It really does.

Tony Robbins always says that to change the situation you have to see it as it is first, and only after that see it better than it is. I was avoiding seeing my situation as it was.

Awareness. I preach it every day. And there I was not allowing myself to become aware.

Why do I write all of this?

Because I know that there are people out there who experience something similar. It might happen to anyone one day. And usually when you expect it the least. I was happy releasing my new product. And right before the launch this happened. And then it got worse and worse. And I got number and number. It felt like I was paralyzed and even though I knew I had to do something, I couldn’t do anything.

Here are the steps that helped me to get out of that state.

1. Face your situation. See it as it is. Admit it. If it sucks, say it. It is ok to be negative from time to time. Stop the denial.

2. Ask yourself – What do I want to do right now? For whatever reason this step is crucial to be able to get to the next ones.

Forget about what you should do. Forget about what you need to do. What is it that you truly want to do right now? Take a nap? Go for a walk? Call you friend you didn’t talk to in years?

I felt like going to the park to a special place I and my son love spending time at. And there in the park, sitting on the bench by the river my mind started clearing.

3. Clear your mind.

My mind was so foggy and jumpy that I couldn’t focus on finding the solution. Sometimes meditation might help with calming and clearing the mind. But in extreme situations like this one meditation often doesn’t work.

What really helps me is to do a brain dump. Take a piece of paper. And  start writing everything that you have on your mind. Don’t worry about it making any sense. Just write. And write some more. And more. Until nothing else comes out. Mind clarity you’ll feel after doing this is unbelievable.

4. Find the underlying conflict. Often putting my thoughts on paper leads me to the core of the issue.  If you don’t see the core, start asking yourself – Why am I numb? Where is this coming from? What is the core limiting belief that is causing it?

The core is usually some deeply hidden limiting belief that often comes from your childhood or some kind of painful experience from the past. Your subconscious got so impressed by the feeling that you experienced because of it that now you repeat the same pattern over and over again without realizing it.  I learned that just remembering the core experience and becoming aware of it helps to release the limiting belief.

No belief – no pattern anymore.

I won’t tell you the exact experience from my childhood that I remembered but the feeling that it left behind was  – “I am not responsible for my life. I am not in control. I am helpless. There is not much I can do to change the situation.”

And that’s exactly what I was experiencing this past few weeks. That’s exactly why I went numb. Why I wanted to become invisible. Because it felt like there is no sense in doing anything. I can’t change it. I felt helpless.

I am always amazed how all the answers are already there. All I had to do was to ask. What is the core? Where is this coming from? And right there and then I remembered the situation that happened over 15 years ago.

Your mind has all the answers for you. Just start asking questions.

Like I said often just becoming aware of the past painful experience is enough to let limiting belief go. I used EFT and Sedona method to make sure I really let it go. Google them. There are plenty of info online about both.

5. Figure out the next steps. Only after you cleared your mind, found internal conflict and let go of the limiting belief, can you start thinking of what’s next. And usually the next steps will come to you easily once the mind is clear. Write them all down.

6. Do something right away. To keep the momentum rolling take some action. No matter how small it is, do something right away. It will be a signal to you mind that you are serious, that you started moving.

7. And as a bonus step, I really recommend to get rid of the clutter in your physical space. My home never gets too cluttered, I make sure to get rid of the stuff I don’t use/need often. But sometimes I clear everything out just for the sake of clearing my mind. It works each and every time. There is definitely a very strong correlation between clutter in our physical space and clutter in our minds.

Those are the steps I used. I feel better. And so much clearer now. And even though the situation is still stressful, I face it. I am not numb anymore. I take full responsibility. I am not helpless. If I got myself into it, I can get myself out.

I learned lots of lessons on the way. And I am sure there are more lessons to come and more limiting beliefs to clear.

I am moving. Moving forward. And it feels good. Feels like myself again.

When I got married 5 years ago I told to my husband at the time that I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I was so burned out at the job I had that I sincerely believed I didn’t want to ever work anymore and would be satisfied raising kids and taking care of the house.

The husband was thrilled with the idea, that was what he wanted his wife to be. The idea was nice theoretically, but didn’t last too long.  I got bored and got a job 3 months after we got married.

When my son Nicholas was born I realized that I can’t take him to daycare and I don’t trust babysitters, at least while he was little. That’s where the dilemma started. How can I be someone who is not just a stay at home mom and at the same time stay at home with my baby? Home-based business was the only logical answer. So my business started not as a result of me wanting to follow my passion. Passion came later. It started as a desire to do something meaningful in the world and stay at home with my son at the same time.

Fast forward couple years.

I tried many business models online. Made money. Lost money. Scratched everything and started over.  Rediscovered my passions. Decided to get divorced.

I burn meals. Often. I let go of the desire for everything to be clean and organized and don’t freak out anymore when the house gets messy as if it wasn’t cleaned for two weeks just two hours after I cleaned it.

I make business calls while chasing my son on the playground or playing Lego with him. I have two calendars that I update – one for business related activities, another one for our trips to the zoo, kids birthdays, children’s museum, pumpkin patches or strawberry picking. Two books that I have on my night table at the moment are – Unleashing The Ideavisrus by Seth Godin and The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman.

Life is full. And wonderful.

The thing that I realized lately is  – what I am doing is good enough. Really. It is.

I used to think that my business should be growing quicker and that I should be able to squeeze in more activities into our schedule. I even used to try and figure out how I can get by on even less sleep.

But recently I decided to relax. Yes, my business might not be growing as quickly as I’d like it to. This is the choice I made. I don’t want my son to go to a full time day care. I don’t want babysitters. That means I obviously can’t dedicate as much time to my business as I’d like to and that’s ok. I am making a progress for sure.

Being a mother and CEO might seem easy when you look at others but turns out to not be so easy when you do it all yourself. And that’s ok too.

You are doing enough.

Just relax and enjoy the ride. Get rid of the nagging “not good enough” thought in your head and decide here and now that you are enough. You truly are.

Realizing that took so much pressure and stress out of my life. I still do everything I used to do but now it feels different. I allow myself to take more breaks. I don’t feel like I am in a constant chase all the time.  I even started dating!

I feel more balanced. And you know when you are balanced your child will be much more balanced too. Which means  less meltdowns and more cooperation. Which means less stress for both of you.

Life becomes better just with one decision – decision to think of yourself as good enough.

Can you make this decision now? I bet you can. Because you really are.

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P.S. I know there is too much “baby talk” on this blog lately:) I promise to get back to writing about “real” stuff soon:)

Do you remember a time in your life when you just wanted to take a break from everything you were doing? Work, business, blog whatever it is… Just take a break and not think about any of those things (even if you do love doing them) anymore?

After releasing Clarity Manifesto last week, I realized I needed a break. Well, the break from blogging started even earlier, but last week I decided to take a full blown break.

A complete turn off from everything I was doing – blogging, marketing my coaching, Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin,  reading and commenting on other blogs (I love you, my dear fellow bloggers and learn so much from you, but I still felt like I needed a break from your genius), creating content, submitting articles, newsletters,  answering emails,etc… – if you do any business online, you know what I am talking about.

 I love what I do. It almost never feels like a job. I love writing. I love helping people. I love my coaching sessions and “a-ha” moments my clients and I myself experience.

But I realized that I do need a break from that too. And I decided to not resist it this time. I gave in. Yes, there is always a fear that people will unsubscribe from your list and stop reading your blog and everyone will forget you on Twitter and no one will ever sign up for your coaching anymore.

But I refuse to live this way. It feels like another box, another rat race to me. I choose to believe in abundance of this wonderful Universe that always provides. I choose to believe in ease. I choose to believe that I am my only judge and if I consciously decide to not judge myself, no one else will.

I don’t believe in balance. I believe in rollercoaster. Work hard, rest hard. It works for me.

So what did I do on my little break?

I spent lots of time with my baby, my son Nicholas. I also spent lots of time with an amazing person who I met few months ago but only recently realized his amazingness fully. That was probably the main reason the break started, but more updates on that later. I took lots of walks in the park. Heck, I even got back to going to the gym. In short, it was a good break.

Now I am back. And will be updating the blog regularly again. This blog is something I’ll never leave. I might be taking breaks (not often) but I don’t see myself quitting blogging anytime soon. I love writing. I love the creation process.

I just signed up for Leo Babauta’s A-List Blogging bootcamp, so not only am I nowhere close to quitting, but I am taking it to the next level.

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Check out my Clarity Manifesto that I released last week. It comes with a workbook + unique guided visualization CD + weekly videos to keep you motivated and on track.  The end goal Freedom and Meaning and Life in alignment with Your Truth.

Clarity works in amazing ways. I am still surprised sometimes how fast and easy it often is.

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Anyway, that was my little update. I am glad to be back.

Hope all is great in your world!

This is a totally inappropriate post for the week of prelaunching my product. Don’t I need to do some convincing of why you need clarity and why you need to buy my stuff to help you with that? Oh, screw it, I go with the inspiration as always.  You do need clarity though, so check out the preorder page.

On December 22 of 2006 my life turned around. My baby was born.

I don’t write on this blog about my son often. This is something I decided to keep private, and I never could really relate motherhood to clarity.

But today is different. Today I can relate it. Plus my soul wants to write about my baby, so I will. I know a lot of you will resonate. Those who won’t (if you don’t have kids), it will give you a glimpse of what you are getting into if you ever decide to have one…or two…or more.

Nicholas. We didn’t have a name chosen when we went to the hospital. We had a list of 5 names to choose from. Kyle. Ryan. Alexander. Daniel. Nicholas was the last choice.

My mom liked it. I never really did that much. He came and it was clear. His name is Nicholas. Victorious. This name is a most pleasant sound to my ear now.

He was born at 4.46 am. I am not into astrology and horoscopes much, but I do believe in it somewhat. The labor started on December 20^th.  That’s Sagittarius. My sign. Fire. Aiming at the stars. High flights. Passion.

I was sure he would be Sagittarius too and was kind of excited about that. The labor was 28 hours. He was 4 hours 46 minutes late to be Sagittarius and entered Capricorn on December 22.

Am I happy he did that! He has all what I have – fire, passion, but it is different. His fire makes you hot, lights you up but doesn’t burn you.

He is the only person in my life who can keep my fire burning steady without flaming everything around. He is Earth. He grounds and balances me. When I get too high he is the only one who can bring me down in an instant. He says: “Mama, breathe. Deeply.”

And it’s not what he says, which is pretty amazing in itself for a 3 y.o.,  but How he says it. There is calm confidence in his voice. Calm knowing – that is what the best to be done is. And I listen. I am back to Earth. Still lit and high but grounded.

Pain.

I remember the anticipation of joy and happiness I had when waiting for him to be born. There was no joy or happiness. Pain. No, not physical pain. Physical pain of labor is forgotten 2 minutes after the birth (funny how our minds and bodies work).

But pain in your heart. Checking every 15 minutes – is he breathing? Why is he crying? I don’t understand and even when I do I often can’t help. That hurts.

Responsibility. Choices. Who knew there were so many choices you have to make!

Vaccinations? Should you? Shouldn’t you? The risks are “unknown”, but if you read the internet you’ll know. Enough to be afraid. The benefits are…well, you know the benefits. Pretty unknown too if you read the internet again.

And you choose. And then you choose again. And again. And then you doubt and second guess. And explain to everyone around why you made this particular choice. (We do vaccinate but on a special schedule.)

C word. Hate it. I apparently live in the only country in the world that performs one of the most unnecessary and painful procedures to boys without any medical or religious reasons for that. Circumcision.

My baby was just born, going through the most difficult and painful experience of his life – labor. You want to do what to him now? You want to put another pain into his subconscious?

I couldn’t let them do it.  But what about society? What about the fact that up to 80% of boys where we live still go through this procedure and those boys are going to be his classmates.  I still wake up at night thinking if that was the right decision. And pray to God, if I ever have more kids -  girl, please.

And then it comes down to the most important “entity” that has the biggest impact on your baby and that you have total control of but at times seems like you have no control of at all – You. How do you make sure that you are the best you can be? You can’t. You’ll never be perfect. But you learn to roll with it.

Guilt.  I could have done that and I could have done this better.

Fear.

And fear. Constant fear. You can diminish it. You can learn to become more trusting and hope that the Universe/God/World will take care of your baby when you are not there to take care of him. But you’ll never trust 100%. That fear will always stay. Somewhere deep inside. But it is there. It won’t let you go.

And you’ll never look at any accident or child abduction on the news the same again. You might look calm on the outside, but inside your heart will be screaming in pain.

Love.

Love. Not much to say here. Love is Love. He is Love. He is the proof that miracles exist.

I won’t tell you that it was all worth it. That sounds too cheesy. It goes without saying.

Back to clarity now.

How did my son help me with clarity?

I wrote before many times that the question “why” is the most important question of all. “What” is important only if it is backed up by strong “why“.

Nicholas is my reason “why” to so many things.

He is the core reason I decided to divorce his dad. Yes, there were many other reasons. But at the core of it was desire for Nicholas to see an example of relationships where there is deep connection and love between two people so he doesn’t ever settle for anything less than that. I hope I’ll be able to show him that example.

And he is the core reason I didn’t give up on my business when things were not progressing and I felt like saying: “Screw it, I’ll go get a job”.  Behind my desire for freedom and meaning there is desire to be able to look my son in the eyes when he grows up and say: “You can do it, you truly can create your life the way you choose to”

I can give up on my own freedom and meaning. I’ll never give up on his. And the only way for me to give it to him is to get it myself first.

Thank you for coming into my life, my baby. I love you.

OK, my dears. Clarity Manifesto pre-ordering is open. The Official Launch: May 5^th.

If you pre-order today you will get Chapter 2: Life Purpose – Why Are You Here?

This will give you a week to get fully clear on your Life Purpose and on May 5th we’ll start aligning, convincing your lizard brain to shut up and taking action on your dreams.

I put my heart into it. It will get you clear. On the way to Freedom. Having Meaning.

Read all about it here.

I am prelaunching my new product tomorrow April 28th.

Your Day. Your Way. Multimedia Clarity Manifesto. Workbook + Video + Guided Visualization CD to get you Fully Clear. Fully Aligned. To help you drop resistance. To shut down the  lizard brain. And get your mind and your soul on your side.

My second product. But the first one aligned with who I am. Aligned with my heart.

The main reason and the end result I was going after with this product was to give your life Meaning and put you on the way to Freedom.

Watch the video and I’ll tell you all about it, as well as all about what True Clarity means and why you need to get both your soul and your mind on your side to reach your goals.

The prelaunch is tomorrow, April 28^th.  And I decided to move the official launch to May 5^th for several reasons.

Workbook +Video +Ideal Day visualization CD.   

Me sharing my journey. Not teaching. Not trying to impose any maps or “how-tos” on you. But sharing the journey and showing you what worked for me and what I know worked for my 1-1 coaching clients.

If you order tomorrow, I’ll send you the Life Purpose section. One of the most important ones in the workbook. This way you’ll have one week to get clear on your purpose and will be fully ready to immerse yourself in the rest of the material next week.

I am excited.  There will be more products. I’ll keep the momentum rolling.  

Price:

$65.

Why? 6+5= 11. I like eleven a lot lately. 11:11 is following me everywhere in fact. I’ll write some day about my thoughts on the whole 11:11 phenomenon.

Affiliate program:

I have several people who will be helping me with the promotion of the Clarity Manifesto. If you’d like to join, please write me at lana@daringclarity.com

What’s in it for you?

I will pay affiliates 50% from every sale they make.

Do you need a blog or a list of newsletter subscribers to do it? No. You can share it with your friends on Facebook, Twitter etc. The process of signing up as an affiliate is extremely easy.  Send me an email and we’ll set it up.

If you do have a blog or email newsletter and would like to help me by reviewing Clarity Manifesto on your blog or sending an email to your subscribers, please send me an email and I’ll send you a copy for free. The 50% affiliate thing, of course, still works too.

I truly believe that I accomplished what I wanted to accomplish with this product.

Get you truly clear. Truly committed. Align your mind and soul. Help you drop resistance. Create meaning. And put you on the way to Freedom.

It is scary to make big claims like this. It is scary to release your thing, your art into the World. But I truly believe that the Wolrd needs it. And I truly believe that you’ll love it. Most importantly I truly believe that it will accomplish what promised.

Wish me luck with it, ok?

I love working at Starbucks. I love the atmosphere and the feeling it gives me. I feel Freedom. I feel that I can make stuff from anywhere.

I am sitting at Starbucks with my laptop now. From time to time I stop what I am doing and just observe people around me.

I remembered this line from the Peaceful Warrior (if you haven’t watched the movie, I highly recommend it): “There is always something going on”.

There is truly always something going on. There is a couple sitting by the window lovingly looking at each other, woman at the counter is telling barista that she didn’t like the way her drink was mixed, guy in a suite with a laptop in front of me keeps checking me out, young woman with a baby is waiting in line and making faces to the baby.

There is so much going on around. And everyone is consumed by their own little worlds.

During those moments when I stop and just observe the world around me, I experience such bliss. Awareness  – the rarest state ever is what comes alive during those moments.

I instantly feel peace and inner knowing that everything is fine.  

Life is on my side. No matter what challenge I might be going through –  that moment, that peace is always available to me. All I have to do is stop and become an observer.

What I also noticed is that the more I have those moments of complete presence and awareness, the easier things seem to become. Most tasks get done effortlessly. Solutions are found. The World seems to start realigning itself to meet my needs and desires.

I get into the state of flow. And life starts taking me where I need to go without me having to do much for it.

They say that the secret to getting what you want is to get clear on what you want and then let go and enjoy the process.

I learned this to be so true.

Just get clear and stop worrying about “how”.  Stop worrying how long it’s going to take and that you might not have the resources yet, and that you have no idea of exactly what steps  will take you there.

Just start doing something in that direction and be present as much as possible.

Be present seems like such an easy thing to do but in reality it is one of the most difficult things (unless you are enlightened of course. I doubt you would be reading my blog if you were).

Our mind hates presence. It lives in the future or the past, constantly worrying, analyzing, fantasizing.

Rarely Here and Now. And when it is Here and Now, it becomes restless. It starts screaming: “There is so much to do, to think about, to worry about, what are you doing Here? “

Why does being present work?

• You get closer to your spirit and you shut down your lizard brain that wants to keep you in your comfort zone.
• You allow your Higher Self to send you ideas and opportunities. Your conscious mind is not interrupting
• You get more intuitive to the flow of your life.
• You let go of your desires which allows them to manifest. Letting go works.  You still want it, but you allow it to happen in a best way possible without trying to push the desired outcome.
• You become more aware. State of awareness is one of the rarest states that exist. It allows you to become conscious of what you do, think and feel. As a result you can consciously choose your thoughts, feelings and actions. That ability alone can transform your life.

How can you train your mind to be present and stay present for longer periods:

1. Meditate: Even 5 minutes of meditation a day can increase your awareness and ability to be present tremendously. Meditation stills your jumpy mind. I won’t even mention other tremendous benefits of it.

2. Focus on your senses often throughout the day:  I found this simple exercise to help  train the mind to be present.  Consciously decide to focus on one of your senses as often as you can throughout the day.

Say to yourself: sight. Focus on what you see around you. Some time later: hearing. Focus on sounds that you hear. Then smell, touch, taste.

3. Do something new: Commit to doing one new activity a day. It doesn’t have to be something grand each time. Cook a new meal, take a new route to work, start a journal, try new restaurant, try something new in the bedroom with your partner, change a radio station you listen to in the car.

Again, do it consciously. When you consciously make a decision to do something new every day, you are much more likely to do it and have tons of ideas.  New activity trains your mind to stay present because your mind gets interested by it.

Those are just some ideas to get you started.

Remember, the more aware you are and the more often your mind is in the present moment, the faster life seems to start moving you in the direction you want to go. Presence and awareness are powerful states that can create miracles in your life.

Do it consciously. Make a conscious decision to start doing it.

Are you present now?

There is so much going on around you. Stop moving through life on autopilot. Stop. Observe. Become aware. Deep breath in. Deep breath out. 

 Enjoy the moment.

Update: This post was written two days ago. The state of flow I experienced sitting in the morning at Starbucks by consciously deciding to be present and aware stayed with me the whole day and in the evening of that day something really amazing happened. Proving once again that when you are present and aware, life starts sending surprises without you having to look for them.

I decided to do a video for the Clarity series this week.  This is actually my first time doing a video in quite awhile, so bear with me, guys. I am a quick learner, I’ll get better really soon.

The video is 5.56 min long. I know, long. In fact very long for the attention span most of us have online these days. Again, bear with me, future ones are going to be sweet and short.

Anyway, enjoy. I ask a very important question in this video and as always give a personal example to help you in answering it.

Remember, asking the Right Questions can change your life. Lets’ start asking.

Should I speak louder? Can you understand what I am saying? Comments and feedback are very welcome!

The questions I ask in case you didn’t understand  –

If money/time were not an object, what would you like to revolutionize in the area of your vocation? What would your Ideal Vision be if there were no limitation of what you could do? What would you like to change?