“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitation, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed.”– Patanjali
This is part 1 of the series on discovering your purpose in life.
I think I’ve read about 20 articles in the past few weeks about discovering your life’s purpose. Some of them were really long and offered a series of techniques to help you with discovering your life purpose, some of them were simple, short and to the point. Some of them were completely theoretical. Some of them gave you lots of practical tools.
If you’ve read lots of articles but haven’t discovered your life’s purpose yet I am going to present a series of posts to help you with that. I am not going to give you too much theory; instead I would like to share with you a series of exercises for you to do. Each exercise will build on the previous one.
After you are finished with the exercises, you should be able to come up with a statement that contains your life’s purpose.
You also should be able to get really and I do mean REALLY clear on what you want in life. This is actually the most important step in getting it and this is also the step that many of people get stuck at.
Why do you need to know your life purpose to begin with?
I know lots of people who have beautiful relationships, plenty of money, and great health but are unhappy. Part of the reason is of course that some people are naturally always unsatisfied with what they’ve got, but very often the reason is they are not pursuing their purpose in life. There is no spark, no real passion. I lived my life this way for a long time.
Also, when we are not aligned with our purpose, life often seems like a struggle. Why? Because we are going against the flow and life is trying to direct us by creating obstacles.
I truly believe that we can reach anything if we push hard enough. Truly, anything is possible.
You can of course reach goals that are not aligned with your life’s purpose, but what’s the cost? Constant struggle and once the goal is reached – dissatisfaction and the feeling of “why did I need this to begin with?”
Once we align ourselves with our purpose, opportunities, people, and ideas start coming into our lives; helping us and pushing us forward.
No, it probably still won’t be easy. You probably still will have obstacles, most of them are there to help you grow. But you will feel great overcoming those obstacles, and you will be inspired and motivated no matter what.
It is proven that up to 95% percent of the population lives without clear goals or dreams in mind. The reason being for that is I believe that 95% of the population doesn’t know their life purpose. How can you come up with goals without having a purpose? Well, of course you can, but again, how effective is that goal setting going to be?
Before we start, here are some things about your life purpose that you need to know.
It is the TRIP, not the DESTINATION.
It is the ESSENCE, not the FORM.
It comes from your SOUL, not SPIRIT.
It is the QUALITY of life, not QUANTITY.
It is ALTRUISTIC, not SELF-CENTERED.
It is a YEARNING, not DESIRE.
It comes to us INTUITIVELY, not LOGICALLY.
It is DRAWN OUT of us, not CREATED.
Also please remember that your life purpose is not set in stone – it shifts as we grow in consciousness and take on more responsibility.
Ok, enough theory, let’s start with the exercises:
The first exercise in the series that I would like to do is called…
And you probably heard of it already, but I bet you haven’t done it the way I am going to present it to you.
This exercise will bring you so much clarity, you’ll be amazed. If you do any exercises I am going to share with you in this series, do this one.
Not only it will help you in discovering your life’s purpose but also it will give your mind very specific goals. And as you might know your mind loves goals, the more specific the better. The more emotion in that goal, the better too.
Our mind doesn’t really understand words so your feelings and emotions are very important in order for it to understand what you want and start bringing you ideas on how to reach it. Anyway, let’s start.
Imagine the ideal day of your ideal life.
Imagine that this is the day when all of your goals and dreams are reached already and you are living the life of your dreams. Everything you ever wanted came true. And I do mean – Everything.
Now starting from the very time you wake up in the morning, begin writing about that day. Actually take a piece of paper, make sure you have at least one hour of uninterrupted time (preferably more) and write everything down.
And I don’t want just a few sentences telling me the general outline of your ideal day which is what most people do.
In order for this exercise to work you have to not only generally outline what your ideal day would look like, you also have to go into every little specific details, including as much of your thoughts and feelings you would have throughout that day as possible.
Right from the time you awake, start asking yourself these questions and writting down your answers.
- What is the first thing you think of when you wake up? What do you feel? What do you see around you? Who do you wake up with? What do you say to each other? How do you feel toward that person?
You see how many little details we mentioned before you even got out of bed? This is the level of clarity that you need.
- What do you have for breakfast? What do you think about during breakfast? Where do you live? What does the place you live in feel like inside?
- What do you think about that place? Now look out of the window, what do you see?
- Who else lives with you? What do you feel toward those people? Think about all the relationships you have in your life. How are they?
- Now think of your financial situation. How much income do you have a month? A year? How do you distribute that income? What do you think about your financial situation?
- What are you feelings toward your future?
Think about your finances, relationships, health – everything.
Think of yourself in detail too.
This is very important.
- What qualities have you developed? What do you think of yourself? How do you see yourself in your perfect day? What do you do? What are your passions? What are your feelings toward yourself?
Now let’s go back to your perfect morning
- What else do you do during breakfast?
- Do you work? If yes, where? Do you have people who work there with you? How much income do you make? Think of as many details about your ideal work or business situation as you possibly can.
- What do you do after breakfast? What do you think during lunch?
I don’t want to bore you but I hope you get the idea.
This is your ideal day. Don’t limit yourself and think of as many details as you can.
Step by step. Make sure to include your thoughts, feelings, all five of your senses.
Get clear means get clear. This is the degree of clarity that you need.
Not only will it give your mind lots of food for processing and things to work on, but it will also get you REALLY clear on what you truly want in life. It will give your mind direction and very specific goals in a language that it can undersatand. Reaching your goals will be so much easier after that.
And ultimately hopefully after combining this exercise with others in the series, you’ll be able to come up with your Life Purpose Statement.
In the next post I’ll share another exercise with you. Till then you might want to check out some of the articles I have recently read about discovering your Life Purpose, I think you’ll enjoy them as much as I did.
Steve Pavlina’s How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes
Leo Babauta’s The Short but Powerful Guide to Finding Your Passion
Celestine Chua’s Life Purpose Series
Have you discovered your life purpose already? Share with us how you did it in the comments section below.