I believe there are two points in our lives that transform us into action taking machines.
Those are the points when we forget about our worries, our doubts, our fears and just take consistent and focused action toward our goals until we reach them.
The first point is when you are pushed against the wall and you really don’t have another choice but to actually make it work, to actually do whatever it takes to reach the goal. All of us probably were at that point at least once in our lives.
Your survival mode turns on and it is either you make it or you die. No time for worries, doubts, procrastination etc. You just act.
Another point is the point of whatever . I’ll explain that one in a minute.
Both points transform your desire into pure intention. Pure intention is when you don’t double think.
Just like when you want to go to the store and buy milk. You don’t sit there and think whether you should do it or not. You don’t procrastinate. You don’t worry or doubt. You just go to the store and get milk.
That is the action caused by pure intention.
Action like this one brings results. Always.
Don’t you wish you were able to take that kind of action toward all important goals of yours?
I won’t talk today about the first point of when you are pushed against the wall. Not everyone is in the situation of when you have no other choices and have to act if you want to survive. Many of us are pretty comfortable where we are.
Yes, we would like to be more and reach more but the pain of reaching the goal in our mind is really bigger than the pain of staying where we are. So we don’t act. We sabotage ourselves by procrastinating, doubting, worrying, fearing.
That’s where the point of whatever comes in handy.
What is the point of whatever?
It is the point where you completely let go. You are unattached. You know that you’ll be fine either way-whether you reach the goal or you don’t.
You still want it and you want it bad, this is very important to understand. But you don’t care at the same time.
There is a very fine line between the point of whatever and completely giving up on your goals.
You don’t give up. You desire. You want it. But you let go and know without a shadow of a doubt that you’ll be fine no matter what.
Why did you have those worries and fears and doubts that were sabotaging you from taking action to begin with? Most likely because you were afraid to fail, right?
Fear of failure is what prevents us from trying to begin with.
By letting go of your attachment to the outcome, you let go of your fear of failure.
This is the point of whatever.
This is the point where your doubts and worries and fears that stopped you from acting before, leave you. Since you are not attached to the outcome anymore, why have all of those emotions?
You are in a state of: “I am going to take action. Period. I don’t care if I fail. I don’t care if people won’t approve. I don’t care of all the other things I was so scared of before. I am just doing it. Because I still want it even though I let go.”
Pure Intention. Pure Desire. Pure Action.
No time spent anymore on worrying. No time spent on contemplation why this won’t work or how to do that better or how maybe you should try something else.
You just act. And then act again. And Again.
Failure doesn’t exist anymore. It is simply not an option. You threw it out of your vocabulary.
Something doesn’t work, not a big deal. You try something else. And something else. And again.
Until the goal is reached.
So how do you come to the point of whatever?
I love giving bullet points at the end that you can apply right away but this one is tough.
There is no one recipe for letting go. Here are some of the suggestions I have:
1. Imagine yourself as if you were 85 years old. Look back at your life from your 85 years old point of view.
What would you regret more – having lots of failures or not attempting to do what you wanted to do to begin with. Would you even care about your failures at that time? I bet you wouldn’t.
2. Close your eyes, relax, take several deep breaths and say to yourself: “I let this desire go. I truly let it go.” Feel your body letting go. Know that you’ll be fine no matter what.
3. Commit. This one is counterintuitive. How can you commit to something and not care about it at the same time? You actually can. Commit to taking action no matter what it takes. But don’t care about the outcome.
4. Live in the present moment. Visualize your goal only as an end result that you wish to reach but think about it lightly, as if you were just seeing a movie. Do it just for fun.
Then return to your present moment and focus on your present moment not allowing yourself to go into worrying about “hows”
5. Decide. Just make a conscious decision to let go and remind yourself about this decision often until it is engrained into your brain.
Do whatever works for you to let go of your attachment to a particular outcome.
Desire it. Want it. Commit to taking action but don’t be attached to the outcome.
Let go. Don’t care.
Remember you are doing it to help yourself with taking consistent action. You are doing it to stop sabotaging yourself. You are doing it to make the fear of failure nonexistent for yourself.
Plus the journey to your goals is going to be so much more fun when you don’t cling to them.
Get to the point of whatever. And take action.
What are you going to let go of today?