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Life Purpose: Do you avoid challenges?

life purposeThis is our third article in the life purpose series.

Part 1:  Finding Your Life Purpose:  The Most Powerful Way To Discover What You Truly Want In Life

Part 2: Finding Your Life Purpose: Do You Know What You Stand For?



Today we are going to talk about the last set of exercises for you to discover your life purpose. Before we start, I got few comments about the fact that our life purpose is to just be an observer and become aware of life that is happening around us. If you read any of the books of Eckhart Tolle that is exactly what he teaches. And I completely agree.

We should learn to enjoy the process not the destination. But unless we are enlightened I truly believe that we also need an outer purpose that will give us direction in life. You inner purpose is to wake up and become aware, to be present and accept every moment.

Your outer purpose is what I am trying to help you discover here.


We’ll talk about challenges today. Some of you might be surprised.  Why challenges? What do they have to do with our life purpose?

A lot of our life experiences are presented to us to help us make conscious what is unconscious within us. Most of the challenges we face are there to help us grow and become a better and more fulfilled person.

Unfortunately, most of the time we don’t realize this and just try to avoid the challenge and forget about it as quickly as possible.  But if you understand that the quickest way for some unpleasant life situation to go away is for you to become conscious and learn the lesson, you’ll see how much quicker the things that bother you will leave you alone.

Once you learn the lesson, you’ll most likely take action, and once you take action, the situation will resolve itself.  An example of that would be relationships. We often attract the same kind of relationships into our lives over and over again.

Look for certain patterns and see what those patterns are telling you. Most likely it is some issue that you need to resolve inside of yourself. Maybe you need to love yourself more or let go of some fears. People you attract into your life are either mirrors of you or they are mirrors of your attitudes and certain vibrations that you send out.

Look inside and see what those patterns are telling you, because until you resolve the issue inside, life will be sending you the same challenge over and over again,

Often our life purpose is hidden inside those challenges. Because that is what our soul wants us to become conscious about and grow into.

The exercise 

The exercise I am going to show you is quite simple. On a clean page draw two vertical lines to create two columns.

In the first column on the left, make a list of the challenges and life lessons that you have had or are presently going through. Don’t overanalyze, just write whatever comes to mind.

Especially note cycles you have experienced in your life around relationships, career changes, finances, personal growth, health challenges, balance, emotions, etc.

In the next column, write what you think is the positive perspective you would prefer to experience.  A higher, more resolving energy that you’d like to experience.

Below are some examples, some of the challenges I’ve been going through and the lessons I’ve learned/outcomes I got.


Challenge / Positive Outcome   

Control / Trust

Too much criticism /Acceptance

Fear of failure /Trust that everything will work out

Fear of greatness / Love

Goal driven life /Process driven life

Guilt / Acceptance


Those are just some examples, sit down and actually think of your challenges and life lessons, and write them down. Then look at them and see which words or phrases resonate with you the most at the moment. Do not use your logic to do it. Try not to listen to the voice in your head, but follow your feelings. Your soul communicates with you using your feelings and your soul knows what your life purpose is. Learn to listen to it and to hear it.

Now that you are done with the last exercise, look at all of your notes from part one and part two of the life purpose series. Now, you have two ways to come with your life purpose. Just write down whatever comes to mind. Just start writing; words will come to you automatically.

Or you can follow the following format.

  1.  What do I want to do now? (teach, heal, nurture, etc.)
  2. Who do I want to do it for or with? ( children, your family, man, woman)
  3. How will they benefit and what qualities of life will they experience?
  4. What qualities of life will you experience as a result?

Whatever works for you, write it down. If you did all the exercises I outlined for you, I know you’ll be able to come up with your life purpose statement.

It might be one sentence, it might be several. Whatever it is, it is the right thing for you. Remember your life purpose will evolve as you grow in consciousness, so don’t think you are stuck with it for life. But what you did right now is huge.

Still not sure?

If you are still stuck after all of those exercises and still can’t come up with your life purpose I will leave you with the quote a friend of mine sent me lately “The purpose of life is the life of purpose”. 

The way I understand it, you can create your own life purpose and that will be the right purpose for you. All that matters is that you will live your life with purpose.

I hope what I shared with you in this series was useful. Hopefully, not only did you discover your life purpose but also got clear on what you truly want in life and what values are important to you. Without knowing all of that it is very hard to live a truly authentic and fulfilled life. Make sure now that your purpose and your values are in everything you do one way or another.

It also helps to put it in front of you for some time, so you are reminded about it every day. Once your goals, values and purpose get imprinted into your subconscious it will start sending you lots of ideas and opportunities about how to live your life realizing them.

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Dragos Roua December 11, 2009 at 6:27 am

Wow. And I mean, WOW! This is great, Lana and I admit every time I visit your blog I have at least one “a-ha” moments. This time was about your polarization in the Challenge / Positive Outcome section.

You have a gift of seeing things beyond the surface. 🙂
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Oscar December 11, 2009 at 6:36 am

Lana, this was an amazing post and a great exercise. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Lana December 11, 2009 at 7:58 am

Thank you so much Dragos, if I really do have that gift I guess I am truly blessed.
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Lana December 11, 2009 at 7:59 am

Thank you Oscar, I appreciate it!
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Anastasiya December 11, 2009 at 9:23 pm

Lana, you have created a wonderful series of posts on life purpose. I am sure that anybody can realize what their life purpose is after reading your posts. Thanks for sharing this great advice!
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Lana December 11, 2009 at 10:39 pm

Thank you Anastasiya, glad you liked it!
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Persha -DumpedDays December 13, 2009 at 10:46 am

Came across this site for the first time.. and I’m glad I stopped by.

In my own life.. I sometimes feel that I can take more risks! You’ve asked some good questions here… something that will keep me occupied for a while :-0)

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Rocky | R O C K O N O V A.COM December 13, 2009 at 6:01 pm

really great way t o put everything in perspective, Lana! thanks for the post!


Lana December 14, 2009 at 1:07 am

Persha I think we all feel this way from time to time, glad you liked my site:)

Thank you Rocky!
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Marina December 15, 2009 at 2:30 am

Very interesting and helpful ! as usual !!!!!!!!!! Thank you!


Lana December 15, 2009 at 8:04 am

Thank you, dear:)
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Evelyn Lim December 17, 2009 at 2:39 am

It’s great that you make the distinction between inner and outer purpose. The purpose of life is to really be the fullest expression of who we really are. It requires an alignment between our inner desires and how we express ourselves externally in harmony with the rest of the world. Indeed life purpose is to live deliberately.

Life purpose is not an easy subject to tackle. Your posts are brilliant!
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Lana December 17, 2009 at 7:49 am

Thank you si much Evelyn and totally agree with your comment!
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