Everyone around you tells you that your beliefs determine your reality.
Everyone around you also tells you that most of those beliefs were picked up while you were a child. Your subconscious was very vulnerable at the time and like a sponge absorbed everything you were surrounded with.
Your beliefs about money, relationships, self image, people around you and world in general mostly come from your childhood.
So if your childhood was not perfect like most of ours wasn’t, …well, you are screwed up.
I am quite familiar with the topic.
I was born in a wonderful country that has amazing people but most of us from that country have tons of limiting beliefs (guys, my dear friends from the motherland:), I know you are reading this but rarely comment. Shout at me if I am wrong)
The country was previously called Soviet Union. I was born in Moscow Russia there but most of my childhood was spent in Tashkent Uzbekistan, one of the poorest republics of former Soviet Union. It is still very poor.
The average salary in the country is $100/mo (may be it went up to $150 since I last visited). The funny part is that the prices on most things are the same if not higher than we have here in US. How people survive is still a mystery to me.
Anyway, back to my beliefs, in a country like this the official belief about money is that you can’t make enough money to be rich unless you are doing something dishonest. Good and honest people can’t make money. Period.
I was told about tons of other limitations. You can’t. You shouldn’t. It won’t work. You have to be modest. Don’t talk about yourself, don’t talk about your talents, that’s bragging.
Passions? I don’t think anyone ever asked me about my passions. Maybe I was asked what I was good at. But doing something you are passionate about and trying to make a living doing it – this concept just doesn’t exist in the circle I came from. Start your own business? Are you kidding?
I won’t go into other beliefs my upbringing and heritage gave me, you get the picture.
I wouldn’t want to be born or raised anywhere else, there were 1000 times more good stuff than bad.
The point is – when I talk about limiting beliefs – I really got it!
Now everyone tells that you have to work through your limiting beliefs. You have to get to the core of the issues, find patterns etc. . And if you can’t make money in your business, most likely it is because of your beliefs. If you keep attracting wrong partners, again, check your beliefs. That’s how our reality works pretty much.
It’s all true and I wholeheartedly believe in that also. It’s all about our beliefs. Our beliefs cause our thoughts. Our thoughts affect our feelings. Our feelings affect our actions. And hopefully we all know that our actions determine our results in life.
That’s the mechanism. Makes total sense and that’s what the whole personal growth industry is built on.
So where am I leading you?
To the fact that one of the top limiting beliefs you have is the belief that you have tons of limiting beliefs.
It might be sitting somewhere in the back of your mind. But that’s what I see over and over again in people.
We almost started using the fact that we have limiting beliefs as an excuse for us to not being able to do something. Tons of energy is spent on finding and eliminating those beliefs. Tons of time is wasted thinking about them.
And, please, don’t think that I am against all of that.
I am all for awareness. I am all for conscious living. That’s what I preach every day.
Seeing your negative patterns and letting go of the beliefs that caused those patterns is a huge part of conscious living.
What I am against though is when we start using our limiting beliefs as an excuse.
Oh, my parents were divorced, now I can’t find a perfect partner. Oh, I have so many limiting beliefs about money, I have to work through all of them before I can make my business work and become profitable.
Awareness is good and useful.
Living on autopilot without even noticing your negative patterns is bad.
But using something as an excuse, wasting tons of energy and time thinking about your limiting beliefs and how screwed up you are because of them is bad too.
There is a fine line between awareness and using your limiting beliefs as an excuse for your failures.
And most importantly I see people subconsciously expecting failures because they think they have limiting beliefs. That’s what I was doing for a long time in my life.
Let it go. Yes, you might have had screwed up childhood, your parents might have not supported or praised you enough, your classmates at school might have bullied you and destroyed your self confidence.
You are aware of it. You know the enemy in the face.
Now let it go. Consciously decide to let it go.
There tons of people out there who achieved so much despite screwed up childhood and tons of negative experiences they went through. And a lot of them didn’t even know what limiting beliefs are. They simple decided one day that they were going to get what they wanted. Period.
So how do you let go of the limiting belief about you having tons of limiting beliefs?(funny, isn’t it? that’s what too much thinking leads us to ) Those are the three simple steps:
1. Let go. Stop looking for limitations. Stop finding excuses for your failures. Simply accept them and move on.
2. Get clear on what you want. What is it that you truly want? What is it that you were born to do here? What would you do if you couldn’t fail? Find your true desires aligned with who you are.
3. Commit. Stop wiggling around. Stop looking for more answers. Commit to Your Vision. If it resonates with you, commit to it. Being open to better options is not the same as being constantly in a state of : “I am not sure, let me look for something else”. Those are two totally different things. The World can’t start sending you opportunities until you are fully clear and committed.
Once you are truly clear and committed a lot of your limiting beliefs won’t have any effect on you anymore. They will simply become obsolete. True clarity and commitment can do that for you.
So what are your limiting beliefs? Can you let them go and actually not even worry about them anymore? Deal with them when they come up, but release the worry about them from your mind.
Can you get fully clear and committed to making your Vision a reality?