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you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first

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This is Part Two inspired by my “you can’t go There if you don’t leave Here first” post.

My previous post could have implied otherwise but  I wanted to make it clear – I love my Here and Now.

In fact this is the questions I ask myself every  day – am I loving my here and now?

This is my #1 goal, this is my biggest and the most outrageous dream, this is my ultimate desire – love my Here and Now.

Yes, there are people that annoy me, there are relationships that I want to let go of, there are goals I am headed towards, there are thousands of things I want to improve or, OK,– grow in myself.

But I do love those people who annoy me, I do love the relationships I am in the process of letting go of, I do love the goals I haven’t reached yet and really wish they came to me easier and with less effort and I absolutely, undeniably love and adore myself Here and Now with all of my imperfections and thousands of points I have on my list I have to work on to improve or, again,-grow in myself.

I love my Here and Now. I adore it. Even when I hate it I still love it. I want to learn to be fully in it. Every moment. Every breath. I want to always be Here and love it.

Contradiction? Maybe? Doesn’t make any sense? I don’t think so.

Why would you even want to not love your Now?

What is the point of reaching your goals? They will become your Now. Your Now – -that you don’t love. Your Now –that you want to get rid of.

Is your Now an obstacle that you want to overcome? But that’s exactly what you’ll get more of – obstacles to overcome, things to improve, areas to grow, relationships to let go of, goals to reach again and again and again… Until you die.

You might as well start loving that stuff now. Because it will always be your Now.

Take a deep breath.

Look around.

Stop for a minute and say – I love you. I love you my Here and Now.

You are perfect with your imperfections and I am so grateful because no matter what -you are here for me.

What are your relationships with your Here and Now? Is it an obstacle to overcome, to run through to the next goal? Or is it a blessing, a cherished  gift?

Stop and love it. Otherwise, what’s the point?

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Keith February 15, 2010 at 6:35 pm

I agree–if we only allow ourselves to be happy when everything is perfect then we will be waiting forever for happiness.

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Anastasiya February 15, 2010 at 8:46 pm

Lana, that was a very powerful post. I love my here and now and even though I am still moving in the direction of my goals I feel great in the process. Thank you for sharing your emotions and your ideas. They are precious!
.-= Anastasiya´s last blog ..How to Make the Most out of Your Valentine’s Day Whether You Are Single or Not =-.

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Kaushik February 15, 2010 at 11:29 pm

Beautiful post, Lana!

It is paradoxical that lasting evolution can only happen when we are able to fully accept who we are right here and right now. Thanks, very helpful pointers!
.-= Kaushik´s last blog ..Divine Valentine and 2012 =-.

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Jacqui February 16, 2010 at 12:52 am

If you’ve got a bad attitude today, all the tea in china won’t change a thing.

So true Lana! Love your now. Excellent point.

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David February 16, 2010 at 1:41 am

Your posts really inspire me. Thank you!

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Jonathan Figaro February 16, 2010 at 3:20 am

Great post. Love is truly the way!
.-= Jonathan Figaro´s last blog ..You Can Suck On These Positive Nu… =-.

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Lana February 16, 2010 at 5:11 am

@Keith, exactly my thoughts. Nothing is ever just perfect, why to even bother to make our happiness depend on perfection. And maybe the fact that nothing is ever perfect makes this life so perfect. Thanks for commenting!

@Anastasiya, thank you so much for commenting, I am really passionate about Here and Now, you can tell:)
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Lana February 16, 2010 at 5:14 am

@Kaushik, my thoughts exactly. Until we learn to accept and appreciate now, it is hard to change our lives for the better.

@Jacqui I liked it – all the tea in the China won’t change a thing:) Thanks Jacqui!

@David, thank you, I am so happy I can inspire you:)

@Jonathan, it truly is. Love is everything! Thanks for commenting.
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Phil Bolton February 16, 2010 at 9:24 am

Lana –

Perfect post. When I love my here and now, there is nothing else. The present is all with have and living in it is the ultimate experience. We have to start all great endeavors from where we are, so why not learn to appreciate that. I love to get out into nature and just take a walk in the woods to get connected with the now – helps me to seize the moment. Lovely!

Phil
.-= Phil Bolton´s last blog ..Viktor Frankl – Lessons from a Concentration Camp =-.

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J.D. Meier February 16, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Beautiful words of wisdom.

It’s a great reminder that the grass isn’t always greener and that wherever you go, there you are (which is also a great reason to be your own best friend.) The irony about living and loving the here and now is you make the here and now a great place to be.

Being happy now doesn’t mean that things in your life are great, but it does mean choosing and driving from your own happiness and responding over reacting. I think this is also a key to getting the most of our “synthetic happiness” which is just as real as the real deal, according to Dan Gilbert.
.-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..Love Quotes =-.

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Therese Miu February 16, 2010 at 7:17 pm

Thank You so much Lana Truly enjoyed this “love my Here and Now” and it is very true. All you need is within you waiting to be discovered and the connection has always been available since birth. And people such as yourself has tapped into this mindset feelings, emotions, and spirit. That is the reason why YOU are TRULY LIVING A RICH LIFE. It’s not “out there” but always been “in here.” And accepting that in complete totality is the key to embrace LIFE in its fullness and Grace. YOu are REMARKABLE and will continue to SHINE the planet with your love.

Thanks for the loving connection 😉
I am flat out excited about our friendship
*Cheers*

Blissful Smiles,
Therese Miu
.-= Therese Miu´s last blog ..The Blissful ART of Being Single—Loving Yourself =-.

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Nichole Bazemore February 17, 2010 at 2:20 am

Excellent post. That is really the challenge we face on a daily basis–embracing and enjoying the NOW. I never really thought of it that way..that you won’t love there if you’re not here first. Thanks for giving me something to think about.

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Baker February 17, 2010 at 5:13 am

My relationship with the here in now is just joy, and gratitude. These two seem to go hand in hand. Excellent post and a great reminder to be here now and love it. 🙂

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Travis Alexander February 17, 2010 at 5:44 am

Where my life is going, I do not know. What I do know is that I love my here and my now. I am satisfied with who I am, and I know that I can only get better from here on out. Fantastic post, Lana. Now I’ll be thinking about my here and now for many here and nows.

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Lana February 17, 2010 at 8:53 am

@Phil, that what I love doing too, going out into nature. It is the best connector to the present moment and the flow of life.

@J.D. “synthetic happiness”, hmmm, you got me thinking again, going to google it right now:)

@Therese, I am absolutely excited myself, you are awesome too, thank you for your kind words and really insightful comments!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Lana February 17, 2010 at 8:59 am

@Nichole, it is definitely a challenge to be fully present and love what you’ve got here, takes practice, but it really is the key to true and lasting happiness. Thank you so much for stopping by, I am excited to connect with you!

@Baker I am so happy that your relationships with your here and now are joy and gratitude. The best states to be in IMO!

@Travis, yay, here is to many more happy and fully experienced here and nows!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Boris February 17, 2010 at 10:57 am

Lana,
Excellent message! Here and now is all that we have. Past is gone already and tomorrow is just an expectation. To fully embrace our present is the wisest way of living.
All the best!
Boris
.-= Boris´s last blog ..Be average! =-.

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Tess The Bold Life February 17, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Lana,
I’ve published your post at the bold life. I’ve tried to contact you but don’t know if you have gotten my messages. Come on over and respond to comments…I’ve also mentioned I’m no longer coaching and recommended you to my readers.
.-= Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Amount Of Time Lived In Happiness & Joy =-.

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Nadia - Happy Lotus February 17, 2010 at 4:38 pm

Hi Lana,

Beautiful post with great advice.

We take ourselves where ever we go. Tomorrow will take care of itself and it starts with us being fully engaged in the present.

We may not love our present but we have to work with what we have and be candid about the situation. It will guides to where we want to be.

A person cannot get there until they accept the here.
.-= Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..“Here Comes the Sun” – The Re-Invention Begins =-.

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Jeanne February 17, 2010 at 5:58 pm

Great wisdom here, Lana — it took me a while, but I discovered that making peace with what IS takes a great burden off of living; and that dreams become reality so much more easily when we’re HAPPY with the present, with NOW.

Hope your message spreads far and wide!
.-= Jeanne´s last blog ..May You Rest in Peace =-.

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Lana February 17, 2010 at 10:08 pm

@Tess, dear, thank you so much for the opportunity, I appreciate it!

@Nadia, so true, we can’t get there until we fully accept here or it will take lots of pushing and striving. Not what I want to do. Thank you for your comments!

@Jeanne, it took me awhile too, but I am so glad I am finally here:)
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice February 18, 2010 at 12:22 pm

Hey Lana,

Fantastic post and this is always a tricky one for some people.

They get into that mindset that they should love the here and now and in some way feel pressured, by themselves, to stay or feel weak for leaving. I think you can say goodbye but do it without any animosity towards the current situation.

I think loving where you are might be too much for some people, I’d be lying if I didn’t say certain situations were a bit too much for me too love, or that I just wasn’t there yet.

Maybe just letting go is the key, accepting just as much as you can and then letting go is the way to go. What do you think?
.-= Amit Sodha – The Power Of Choice´s last blog ..How To Make A Plan Come Together – Just Like The A-Team =-.

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ONE of THE GUYS February 18, 2010 at 1:07 pm

I agree!

My whole goal is to BE PRESENT! With my kids, my wife and ME! Otherwise what’s the point of anything really?

We have to learn to enjoy the moment, or at least be there when it happens.
.-= ONE of THE GUYS´s last blog ..Easy Motivation =-.

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Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord February 18, 2010 at 1:42 pm

I wholeheartedly believe this. I’ve found, from a manifesting standpoint, that the moment I sink completely into the moment and love it for all it’s worth (aka, become truly content), amazing newness starts appearing all around me.

A phrase I like that keeps me loving the current moment (and keeps me grounded in it) is this: It’s All Good!
If we live in a perfect Universe (which I believe we do), then it has to be!

I really enjoy your blog, and am so glad Tess featured you as a guest author. You’ve been bookmarked!
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Underwear in the Jungle! =-.

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Lana February 18, 2010 at 10:33 pm

@Amit I think you are definitely right Amit, if you can’t love it, you can accept it and let go. Otherwise what you resist persist. Like I’ve written I have situations when I have a mixture of love and hatred. I think you can still love the fact that you are alive, that you are growing, while not liking the particular situation itself.

@One of The Guys (this is a cool name:)), “at least be there when it happens” – true, loved it.

@Megan thank you so much Megan, you blog have been bookmarked too and I’ll visit often. This Universe is perfect, so it’s definitely all good. Always:)
.-= Lana´s last blog ..you won’t love THERE if you don’t love HERE first =-.

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Christopher Kabamba February 20, 2010 at 9:16 am

Lana,
A great reminder this is.

The only place we ever live is IN THE NOW. Even for the future we are reaching out to, we have to wait until it is translated into the NOW for us to live in it.

So if we have the habit of not loving the NOW we surely will not enjoy THEN when it is translated into the NOW because we don’t love NOW in the first place.

Thank you for the reminder.
.-= Christopher Kabamba´s last blog ..A Guide to my idea of Conscious Parenting =-.

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jonathanfigaro February 22, 2010 at 4:47 pm

we must all be happy in the moment. Time is all we have. We should cherish every second. And for those who do, more power to you.

Great post LANA!

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