This is Part Two inspired by my “you can’t go There if you don’t leave Here first” post.
My previous post could have implied otherwise but I wanted to make it clear – I love my Here and Now.
In fact this is the questions I ask myself every day – am I loving my here and now?
This is my #1 goal, this is my biggest and the most outrageous dream, this is my ultimate desire – love my Here and Now.
Yes, there are people that annoy me, there are relationships that I want to let go of, there are goals I am headed towards, there are thousands of things I want to improve or, OK,– grow in myself.
But I do love those people who annoy me, I do love the relationships I am in the process of letting go of, I do love the goals I haven’t reached yet and really wish they came to me easier and with less effort and I absolutely, undeniably love and adore myself Here and Now with all of my imperfections and thousands of points I have on my list I have to work on to improve or, again,-grow in myself.
I love my Here and Now. I adore it. Even when I hate it I still love it. I want to learn to be fully in it. Every moment. Every breath. I want to always be Here and love it.
Contradiction? Maybe? Doesn’t make any sense? I don’t think so.
Why would you even want to not love your Now?
What is the point of reaching your goals? They will become your Now. Your Now – -that you don’t love. Your Now –that you want to get rid of.
Is your Now an obstacle that you want to overcome? But that’s exactly what you’ll get more of – obstacles to overcome, things to improve, areas to grow, relationships to let go of, goals to reach again and again and again… Until you die.
You might as well start loving that stuff now. Because it will always be your Now.
Take a deep breath.
Look around.
Stop for a minute and say – I love you. I love you my Here and Now.
You are perfect with your imperfections and I am so grateful because no matter what -you are here for me.
What are your relationships with your Here and Now? Is it an obstacle to overcome, to run through to the next goal? Or is it a blessing, a cherished gift?
Stop and love it. Otherwise, what’s the point?
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You can’t go somewhere and stay where you are at the same time. It is the law of nature. No exceptions.
Makes sense doesn’t it? But so often that’s exactly what we are trying to do – be in both places at the same time..
I was talking to a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. Very good old friend. Wonderful person, we share memories and we had so much in common in the past.
She is still Here. She is completely and totally Here. Here, where I am moving out of.
I can’t take her with me. And I do want to go. But I realized that subconsciously I resisted.
Subconsciously I didn’t want to give up this friendship even though there was not much left from the friendship we once had.
She doesn’t understand me anymore, I don’t understand her. The whole idea of following the passion is kind of ridiculous to her. The idea of NOT doing it is ridiculous to me.
But I would purposely make myself smaller when talking to her. I wouldn’t show how much I changed. I would be like her.
Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with her and I don’t judge. But we are different now and if I stay in that circle, it means I have to be like that circle because that circle doesn’t accept anything different.
Fear of greatness. Fear of being different. Comfort zone. But I’ll talk about those in a different post.
In this post I want to say loud and clear: You can’t stay here if you want to go there. It is impossible. It is against the laws of nature. No exceptions.
What are you resisting letting go of?
What is holding you where you want to move on from? You might be surprised if you look closer.
I, of course, knew about letting go of the old to accept the new and I thought I did it. Only lately did I notice that there still were some things in my life that I was resisting letting go of.
So look closer, what do you need to let go?
What is not allowing you to move where you want to go?
Look at people in your life. Are they in alignment with who you want to be? Do they support you in your vision?
Try doing the following:
Close your eyes. Imagine your Ideal Day. What do you see there? Now open your eyes and write down what or who in your life is not vibrationally aligned with your Ideal Day.
I am not saying to get rid of everyone and everything ruthlessly. Some friends will support you even if they won’t go all the way there with you. But what about those that make you play small, that don’t support nor understand you, that are simply too out of sync with your Vision.
Let them go. Don’t regret.
If you want to be the new you, if you want to tap into your Greatness, Into Your True Self, you have to let go of everything that holds you back.
Just take a deep breath. And decide to let go.
I did. And it feels great.
Part 2 of this post is coming soon.
Live consciously, Be Yourself, Follow Your Dreams!
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I am in the flow.
What does this phrase mean to you?
I am aligned. Everything is working out. Life is moving me forward. I am dancing with life instead of resisting and pushing. I live with ease. I live with passion. I love what I do.
I am in the flow.
Are you in the flow? Or do you remember the time in your life when you were?
Ideas, opportunities, and people seemed to show up right in time, moving you forward where you wanted to go. Serendipities followed you everywhere.
Small and seemingly insignificant events had a whole new meaning for you because they were there to show you – you are on the right track.
You felt excited, motivated, inspired.
You found your muse.
And you rolled with it.
You lived!
You do know what I am talking about, right? I know you do. You might be in the flow now. Or I bet you remember at least one period in your life when you were in the flow. It might have been short or it might have been long. But I know you know what I talking about.
Where did all that magic come from? [click to continue…]
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I used to have a belief for a long period of my life that people didn’t like me.
This is by the way one of the top ten limiting beliefs people have.
I used to have that belief in a slightly exaggerated form though.
It was coming from childhood and from my mom’s desire to have an easy going and communicative child which I never was.
She used to always directly or indirectly try to change me. I have a great mom by the way, she did what she thought would be the best for me. But as a result of that I formed a belief that people didn’t like me the way I was.
Anyway, I realized that I had that belief a long time ago.
I also realized that it was just a belief and that it limited me a lot in life since it didn’t allow me to fully express who I was and made me very insecure.
The nature of our beliefs is very tricky. When we have a belief about something we’ll always find proof of that belief in the external world.
When I had this belief that people didn’t like me, that’s what I was noticing everywhere I went.
Of course, there were (and still are) plenty of people who love me. But I simply ignored them and focused on those who didn’t. That in turn reinforced my belief and made it even stronger.
Quite a vicious cycle. [click to continue…]
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I believe there are two points in our lives that transform us into action taking machines.
Those are the points when we forget about our worries, our doubts, our fears and just take consistent and focused action toward our goals until we reach them.
The first point is when you are pushed against the wall and you really don’t have another choice but to actually make it work, to actually do whatever it takes to reach the goal. All of us probably were at that point at least once in our lives.
Your survival mode turns on and it is either you make it or you die. No time for worries, doubts, procrastination etc. You just act.
Another point is the point of whatever . I’ll explain that one in a minute.
Pure Intention.
Both points transform your desire into pure intention. Pure intention is when you don’t double think.
Just like when you want to go to the store and buy milk. You don’t sit there and think whether you should do it or not. You don’t procrastinate. You don’t worry or doubt. You just go to the store and get milk.
That is the action caused by pure intention.
Action like this one brings results. Always.
Don’t you wish you were able to take that kind of action toward all important goals of yours?
I won’t talk today about the first point of when you are pushed against the wall. Not everyone is in the situation of when you have no other choices and have to act if you want to survive. Many of us are pretty comfortable where we are.
Yes, we would like to be more and reach more but the pain of reaching the goal in our mind is really bigger than the pain of staying where we are. So we don’t act. We sabotage ourselves by procrastinating, doubting, worrying, fearing.
That’s where the point of whatever comes in handy.
What is the point of whatever? [click to continue…]
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I used to think that we all want to be accepted. Isn’t it why we do most of the things that we do – try to lose weight, try to make more money, find love, become a better person.
One way or another we are doing all of that to be accepted and approved by others.
This desire is ingrained in our brain. We want acceptance, we want approval.
Avatar changed this for me though. Awesome movie by the way, highly recommend it.
“I see you”.
This phrase struck me in the heart.
This is the phrase the people of Pandora used in the movie to greet each other – I see you.
Forget acceptance. This is what we all want – to be seen. We want to be clearly seen. We want to be seen for who we are. Acceptance is great but being clearly seen is so much more important.
Not convinced? Would you rather people see who you truly are, what is special about you, how you are different… or accepted and approved you? Ideally it would be great to have both, but I think if we had to choose we’d always choose to be clearly seen than accepted.
I had a person in my life who loved to argue with me. He used to want to prove that I was wrong all the time. He did not accept me.
But he saw me. He knew even the small things about me that made me special and different. He saw me for who I truly was and I loved it.
Being clearly seen makes us feel special. It makes us feel that we are making a difference in this world by being a part of it, that the world wouldn’t be complete if we were not here.
Want to make people happy? See them. See unto them.
How? [click to continue…]
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