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This is day 10 of my 30-day writing challenge. I write every day to gain clarity. To rediscover my voice. To inspire. And bring value. I don’t edit so pardon my mistakes. Thanks for reading.

I wrote here that I have a desire to be useful.

I have another desire. To be perfect. I believe all of us do.

That’s why we give up too early. That’s why we procrastinate. Because we are waiting for perfect. And our silly egos can’t grasp the idea that perfect will never EVER come. Really, it won’t.

I won’t wake up one day looking perfect. Speaking perfect English. Being a perfect mother. Or wife. Having a perfect idea on how to create something incredibly useful and perfect that will change the world. And make me loved and admired by many.

Which brings me to the point  – why do we want to be perfect? Because we want to be loved.  Of course.

What is perfect anyway? Better than others? Significantly better probably.

That’s why so many ideas never come to life. People don’t start businesses or projects they always wanted to because there is someone out there doing it already. Better. Why to bother? And then you find excuses. But, really, in your heart you know that they are just excuses. It’s all about your ego that can’t stand to be imperfect. That’s why you don’t take action. Because someone might look and say – “Gosh, how imperfect are you!”

How to get rid of perfect?

You probably can’t get rid of it. It will always be there. And it’s ok. But you can learn to live with it.

Awareness is the first step. Always.

Ask yourself:

Why are you not doing what you truly want to do? Why are you procrastinating? What is preventing you from full commitment? Is it because someone might think that you are imperfect?

And then ask:

Why do I care? Why?

And you will hear silence. Because your ego doesn’t’ have any legitimate reason.

And finally ask:

What will I regret more at the end of my life? Doing it and being ridiculed or not doing it?

You know the answer. We all do.

And that’s how you help perfect to learn some good manners. And stop being so loud. And that’s how you let the little voice that says: ”Let’s start doing it. Let’s commit. Let’s not give up this time” to be heard.

Have a perfect Day!

And I am going to have a perfect Friday. We have movie+pizza+candles on the menu tonight. Does it get any more perfect than that? I bet it could, but we’ll settle with this kind of perfect.

Perfect moment from yesterday. Boys playing. Baby watching and squealing loudly in delight.

It all ended with baby trying to crawl toward the action, everyone excitedly cheering her. Nicholas trying to help her and kissing her.

And finally, baby crying. Mama telling Nicholas that it is time for bed. And Nicholas crying and screaming: “Just take that baby, I don’t want to go to bed, I want to play with Keith”.



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sri February 18, 2012 at 12:37 pm

Al the best i like it.


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