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The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself

reinvent yourselfThings change so rapidly now. 100 years from now no matter what you do and who you are, there is a very high chance that people won’t remember your name.

The truth is – you are not that important at all. Not only no one will remember your name, no one really cares much about you and what you do now.

You are not important. If you disappear now, the world will still go on. Some will cry but they will forget and move on much quicker than you think.

Your existence doesn’t matter.

Life is short. Time flies. When it’s over, it’s over. We won’t talk about life after death here.

Who you are and what you do doesn’t matter.

This is the truth.

Scary? Maybe. Liberating? For sure!

How often are we afraid to do what we want to do or be who we want to be just because others won’t approve, or it is too uncomfortable, or we gotta do this job first, or because there is sure still plenty of time left. Guess what, none of that matter. Because you are not that important and no one cares.

And also, no, you don’t have that much time left. I don’t recommend worrying about that now, but still.

No one will remember you in 100 years.

Does it really matter now if you do that job or go to that appointment or write your next blog post? No, nothing matters.

Besides one little thing.

You being You

You allowing yourself to be who you are. You stepping into your Greatness and doing what brings you joy. You finding your True bold dreams and going after them .

No one will remember anyway. You might as well stop trying to fit in, stop striving, stop pushing , stop being a victim of circumstances and just allow yourself to be YOU and do what YOU want to do and what makes your soul sing.

Being yourself is the only thing you can do to make a difference. This is the truth too. And it will liberate you. The True You.

Let go of everything that doesn’t feel right.

Start that business you always dreamed of starting. Yes, I know your business plan is not ready and your spouse doesn’t approve and you simply don’t know much about starting a business. Start anyway. Now.

Talk about your outrageous dream out loud even though others might laugh. Your outrageous dream doesn’t have to be to save the world. It might be very trivial, everything is relative. But it is Your dream. Dare to claim it. Dare to commit to it.

Ask that girl on a date. Yes, she might reject you, but who cares. No one will remember little unimportant  you anyway.

Forget the rules. No sex on the first date?  Don’t have sex just for the sake of breaking the rules, but have it if it feels right.  

Leave that relationship that doesn’t support your Vision. It might be uncomfortable; it might be inconvenient, but how liberating!

If you go with your True Self, you cannot go wrong. Because everything your True Self wants is aligned with Love. And Love never goes wrong.

How to embrace the truth and reinvent Yourself

Don’t be afraid to start over. Rewrite your story. Start a new business if the old one doesn’t resonate with who you are. Rewrite your message. I am changing blog’s URL because my old one just doesn’t fit my Authentic Vision. Yes, I am used to the old one, I tried hard to make it fit what I want to do, I tried to make my Authentic Vision to align with it (you don’t align your Vision with what you do, you align what you do with your Vision, see the difference?), I am likely to lose subscribers and I have 250 pretty business cards printed with the old URL.

So what? Living the truth is worth it.

I took down the product and cancelled the membership program I had few months ago cutting down a substantial part of my income at the time because they didn’t resonate with who I was .  I stopped working on a business that just didn’t bring me joy.

Change is scary. Face your fears and do it anyway.  It is scarier to stay stuck where you don’t belong.

I got my first client within a week of starting my new coaching program. I actually was afraid I overpriced it but people saw value and I could deliver what promised. The feeling I get doing what is aligned with who I am is incredible. The feeling I get seeing my clients’ a-ha moments when they “get clear” is unbelievable. It’s great to be useful. Change turned out to  be not as scary as I thought it would be.

Find your Core. Find what is true to you. What brings you joy? What do you love doing the most? What are you great at? Start doing it. The more, the better.  

Ask. If not sure  where to start, ask yourself – How can I do it, where do I start? And then go about your day knowing that your True Self will send you the answer. It always does. Just let go and listen. Once you hear it, don’t ignore. Write it down. See how you can act on it.

Trust. Have faith. Allow the Universe to provide. Stop stressing out about “how”. “How” is not your problem. It will come when you have faith.

Remember, the only thing you really want is to be yourself. This is your life’s purpose – be Yourself, live Your dreams, sing Your song.

This is the truth. And it does set you free if you let it.

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StevenCee February 25, 2010 at 9:18 am

You pretty much nailed it with this one Lana! It’s funny, but I happened to watch about half of American Idol the last two nights. Almost all the kids performing needed to read this blog, cause it was obvious (& the judges did try to tell them, best they could) they did not get this concept. Most performances were pretty flat (some literally), as they were not showing us who THEY were, and with millions of people able to carry a tune, and are good-looking, the ONLY thing that can make anyone stand apart from the crowd, is to be YOU. As a music industry honcho told me many years ago, “you’ve gotta just be whatever & whomever you are, even to the point of exaggerating what it is that is you”; those who don’t, end up in the pile of “OK”, or “good”, or “sounds like ____”…..

So yes, be yourself, listen to that “still small voice”, and just as you put it, “people don’t give a damn about you”, for that is both more accurate, and easier to grasp & do, than the more common, “don’t care what others may think”. I find myself telling people fairly regularly that those they think are trying to take them down, are in fact, not even giving them a second thought. All that stress & concern & energy is wasted, worrying about people that aren’t even thinking about them!

Good job!

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:10 pm

Thank you so much Steven! We are trying way to hard too follow the rules and to do what everyone else is doing just because that is how it is done. What about stopping for a minute and asking – is that what I want, is that who I am? Just stopping the autopilot for one minute. And yes, most of those we waste so much energy worrying and thinking what they think, don’t even give a second thought about us. Even if the do, who cares!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Dave July 26, 2010 at 5:38 am

All great advice if you’ve got the cash to survive while chasing what feels good at the moment… if not – you’ll come unglued pretty quick.

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Bart February 25, 2010 at 9:42 am

This is powerful stuff, Lana. This post feels as if all you wanted to say to your readers is bundled in this extraordinary post. The message is clear and I feel that you are one of those bloggers that truly believes in the message you send into the world.

From time to time, I wonder why people have fear. Naturally, fear of fire or heights is natural, but when did we develop fear for people or challenges. My best advice is asking yourself the question “Does this fear get me where I want to be?”. Mostly, the answer is no and this means you just have to pull yourself together and go to the place that fear tries to keep you away from.

Very inspiring, Lana. Well done!
.-= Bart´s last blog ..Failure Is The Path To Success =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:12 pm

Thank you Bart, I appreciate it. Exactly, this post summed up everything I want to say here on this blog – get clear and dare to live Your Truth. Great question by the way about fear, I think I am going to adopt it:)
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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zmajeva February 25, 2010 at 1:13 pm

What other people think about us is their problem and has to do more with their personalities then ours. I can agree with that part.
But for me, every individual is important. To be important doesn’t mean you have to be famous or something like that. Of course the world should go on when we die! If we thing that world should stop, we have a big problem with our ego. :)))
We are all part of the same universe, and we all can make a difference in our environment, even if our environment contains two people. “You are important and you are a wonderful creature!” I think that’s more liberating to say to people. 🙂
.-= zmajeva´s last blog ..10 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD WRITE! =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:16 pm

Zmajeva, the main reason I used the not important example is to get people stop worrying about the rules, others’ opinions, trying to fit in etc. Once we realize that in the big scheme of things it doesn’t matter if we do all of those things or not. All that really matters is if we live our Truth and be who we are even if that doesn’t fit the box.
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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zmajeva February 26, 2010 at 1:03 pm

Yes, I understood that, it’s like philosophy of absurd- nothing is important, so you are free to do what you want. 🙂
I’m just saying it could be achieved with positive construction, too- “You are important, your true desires are important to this world!”
Think, that gives more strength to people. With faith everything is easier.
.-= zmajeva´s last blog ..10 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD WRITE! =-.

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Dalila October 7, 2010 at 2:15 am

I dig that “people” aren’t “important”…The person that you see is a shell, an illusion and the spirit that must express itself to rise above the misery and worry of the world is what is of priority. If one considers their “self” important, it is most often the ego thinking and qualifying or quantifying value. It’s true that, in ten years, what you did today to liberate yourself as wild, fancy, humbling or embarrassing as it may’ve been, won’t be remembered. It won’t be held against you. I agree, it’s like the pain you easily forget, once you peer into the face of a child or once you were granted your youthful life back after a pregnancy “scare” or “accident”. What’s most valuable right now is the moment that we have to give birth to our truest, deepest most powerful selves and who others see, visually, is not “important nor is it– “who you are”.

Your sense of BEING is all that is important…

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Eduard @ Ideas With A Kick February 25, 2010 at 2:21 pm

I didn’t used to, but now I really like the thought that we are not that important. Once we realize this, it can be liberating. It takes a lot of the pressure off and it allows us to live the life we want, instead of the life we think we have to. Wonderful feeling!

Cheers,

Eduard

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:17 pm

Exactly Eduard, “the life we want instead of the life we think we have to.”There is no “have to”, no one cares anyway:) It is liberating!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Tess The Bold Life February 25, 2010 at 3:51 pm

Hi Lana,
This reminds me “I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.”
You’re so right…it doesn’t matter. The only thing we have is this moment and if we aren’t living and breathing who we really are nothing makes sense.
.-= Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..A Priceless Gift =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:18 pm

Tess, dear, I love that quote, I heard it already but forgot about it. Thank you!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Monica February 25, 2010 at 6:25 pm

HI Lana – In this case, I don’t think the truth hurts. This is a great article in that it’s so direct and to the point.
More and more I am finding that “not being important” is very liberating. I think of how much energy is wasted on what others think and trying to fit in. It’s a health issue for crying out loud!
In the moment that you have an idea (to go for something) I think it’s important to immediately sensor yourself for limiting thoughts so you can move further into the idea and let creativity transpire.
(It’s funny, I also just came up with my new blog name last night cause the old one does not fit anymore.) I thoroughly enjoyed reading this and thank you for the reminder!
.-= Monica´s last blog ..Food Sensitivities at the Root of Chronic Symptoms =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:22 pm

Monica, you are so right. We so often have great ideas but then don’t even allow them to fully bloom because of all the “should, have to, can’t, doens’t make sense,not enough time etc” that appear right away. Yay for new blog names! I am excited for both of us!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Phil Bolton February 25, 2010 at 7:42 pm

Lana –

What a powerful perspective. Sometimes I do a little visualization where I start with myself sitting in a chair and then slowly zoom out – to the street, neighborhood, zip code, city, county, country, continent, hemisphere, planet, solar system, galaxy, constellation, universe. It makes me realize how small we are, and what an infinitely small stretch of time we are on this planet. There is a great quotation I heard “as we have forgotten the generations before us, so will those that follow do the same”. Our lives seem so important now, but actually we are likely to no more than dust. All the more reason to be bold in our actions and enjoy every second of this life. I think this post is great – thank you so much!

Phil
.-= Phil Bolton´s last blog ..Stop taking life too seriously – 5 ways to enjoy the journey =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:24 pm

Thank you Phil. I like your visualization, I’ll try doing it too. And thank you for sharing the great quote. I need to start including quotes with my posts more often, I think quotes make the message so much more powerful.
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills February 25, 2010 at 9:05 pm

Hi Lana, You’re on fire girl, I love it. It’s this kind of focus and resolve that makes amazing things happen in life. You made so many important points and back them up with your own example. The energy in this article is fantastic.
.-= Jonathan – Advanced Life Skills´s last blog ..Unchain Yourself from Conventional Thinking Myths =-.

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:26 pm

Thank you Jonathan! I know you are on fire too now, great things are hapenning for both of us.
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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StevenCee February 25, 2010 at 9:42 pm

Zmajeva, of course we are all important! But at the same time, we are also very unimportant…
It’s a Zenlike concept, that all is incredibly of value, while at the same time, of little value; the
ordinary is the magnificent & vice versa.
Just as Zen monks sitting in cemeteries, or Don Juan’s talk of having “death on your shoulder”, contemplating our own mortality is a process both humbling & empowering for us. Humbling because of the transitory nature of life in our bodies, and empowering because it’s just that mortality that calls upon us to contemplate our acts, in light of knowing they may be our last; for one day they will, and we never know when…

When living in Hawaii, I didn’t hang out in cemeteries, but did sit on the beach, looking out at the vast expanse of ocean. And whether it’s the ocean, or the sky, or even looking out at a huge crowd of people, I see we are but a small piece of the huge whole, yet in the “world” in which we live, we are also important, for who we are, and how we interact, adds our unique flavour to the gumbo of life….

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Lana February 25, 2010 at 10:27 pm

Steven, you response here is perfect, I have nothing to add. Thank you!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Hulbert February 25, 2010 at 10:58 pm

Great post Lana. I love the beginning of how you started this article; that nothing matters and nobody will remember or care about you when time passes. But what we can control is who we are during this present moment. We are the only ones that can truly make a difference for ourselves by not giving us any excuses, and taking the actions of the things that we want to do. Thanks for reminding us to have the faith in ourselves and help us live a life that’s supposed to be lived. 🙂

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Lana February 27, 2010 at 3:20 am

Thanks Hulbert, faith is definitely a huge thing and taking action too:)

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Kaushik February 26, 2010 at 12:55 am

One of the greatest mysteries is that we are mortal and yet most of us live as if we are immortal.

Great post, thanks!

k
.-= Kaushik´s last blog ..The Basics — 13 key points about the flow of awakening =-.

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Lana February 27, 2010 at 3:20 am

I like that Kaushik, it is one of the most illogical things humans do, live like they are immortal.

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Laura February 26, 2010 at 12:20 pm

Hi Lana,
I have connected with you before via Twitter and SU, but first time here commenting on your blog, so a big hello to you and a thank you for writing this post!

I think I was guided here to find your words of encouragement. I have been worrying about what friends and family will think of me if I do something dramatically different for a career than what I have been doing for the past 10 years. I have more confidence in my decision to become self employed doing what I love full time. It is refreshing not to be bogged down worry for a change.

-Laura

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Lana February 27, 2010 at 3:23 am

Thank you for commenting Laura, I am so glad you could resonate with this post. Drastic change is always scary but I noticed things settle down much quicker and easier than we imagine ourselves. I wish you lots of luck with your decision!

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Greg Blencoe February 27, 2010 at 1:36 am

Lana,

I completely agree that it is so liberating to just forget about what others think and pursue your own vision of your true self.

The need to fit in is such a burden. It is like walking around with a backpack full of bricks. And all you have to do is put it down forever to feel totally free.

A key point is that just because you reinvent yourself does not mean that you will be all alone. Wherever you decide to go, there will be other like-minded people there that will embrace you. And they will be much more closely aligned with the real you.
.-= Greg Blencoe´s last blog ..How to love yourself so you can use the law of attraction to get what you want =-.

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Lana February 27, 2010 at 3:25 am

Yes, Greg, that is an excellent point! Once yo have courage to let go the old relationship and take responsibility for choosing your reality, you will meet new people who support and understand you. It is our scarcity mentality that doesn’t allow us to let go, but the world is abundant and new things will come into our lives if we allow them.

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Marc Winitz February 27, 2010 at 7:25 am

” I stopped working on a business that just didn’t bring me joy.” That took a lot of courage Lana, I’m respect your being able to do this and I am impressed by it.

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Lana February 28, 2010 at 1:00 am

Thanks Mark, it did take courage:)

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Farouk February 27, 2010 at 8:50 am

very inspiring lana, it just needs a great amount of courage and faith but its totally worth it

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Lana February 28, 2010 at 1:01 am

oh, yes, so worth it! Thanks, Farouk!

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Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord February 27, 2010 at 1:59 pm

Hmm, I might be the only contrarian here… Maybe it’s just because I read it differently than everyone else. (smile) I believe we all DO matter. If we didn’t matter, we wouldn’t have manifested ourselves into this existence in the first place. As sparks of the Divine, we all NEED to be here for however long we’re here. How do we know when we’re not needed anymore? We die. (Thank you, Richard Bach!)

I do agree with your assertion that we’re better served not to mind what others’ think of our decisions, as far as letting their opinions hold us back from living a heart-centered existence.

But again, as sparks of the Divine, I had a tough time with this paragraph:
“Your existence doesn’t matter…
“Who you are and what you do doesn’t matter.”

Maybe if I re-read that, focusing on the word “who” and associating that with an ego-based viewpoint. Then what you’re saying starts to fall more into place for me. It’s not “who” we are that matters, it’s “what” we are (heart-centered beings of light).

There is a quote I like, though, which points to the idea that each of us does matter (and some of us will be remembered for a long time after we’re gone — and I believe we’ll even be talked about if we let our hearts shine bright enough, like Jesus or Buddha did): “To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

Happy Saturday!
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..SURPRISE! Spread Joy, Have Fun =-.

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Lana February 28, 2010 at 1:07 am

Dear Megan, I have a problem with that particular phrase too:) I truly believe we are all parts of one whole and that whole wouldn’t be complete if we were not here. But at the same time that whole is not complete either if we are trying to be someone else.The main reason I put it there is to help people get rid of the fear that they have when it comes to living an authentic life. Sometimes realizing that you are not that important helps to liberate us. And I also stressed out that the only way to be important, to make a difference is to be yourself.

I love that quote!
.-= Lana´s last blog ..The Truth That Will Set You Free+How To Reinvent Yourself =-.

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Anastasiya February 27, 2010 at 2:01 pm

Hi Lana,
it was a very inspiring post. As you I believe that it is better to live Your life with Your vision (rather than a “normal” life with “ordinary” vision) because only this type of life can be fulfilling.
Of course sometimes we have to make adjustments to our vision and plans, maybe step back for a little while but still keep on going in the direction that we have chosen.
There is no need to worry about unimportant things, that’s right. It is much better to try to be somebody important (at least in your own eyes.)
.-= Anastasiya´s last blog ..Are You a Social Chameleon? =-.

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Lana February 28, 2010 at 1:09 am

Thanks Anastasiya, we do need to make adjustments sometime, it’s a process. They say: “Enlightenment is instant, self discovery takes time”. I am not trying to enlighten anyone here, but I do want to help with the process of self-discovery.

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Mark March 1, 2010 at 5:22 pm

Very well done! Yes “to be” that is what is our purpose.
.-= Mark´s last blog ..Arguing =-.

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Lana March 4, 2010 at 6:39 pm

thanks Mark, that’s exactly what pur purpose is:)

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Nadia - Happy Lotus March 1, 2010 at 5:25 pm

Hi Lana,

Absolutely beautiful! I totally agree with all that you wrote.

I have always viewed change as a good thing and find it funny that people are so scared of change. Nothing in life lasts forever. And nothing is a guarantee except that we will die.

The concept of playing it safe keeps people stuck. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

So here’s to facing the fear and going after our passions!
.-= Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..The Re-Invention Progress Report =-.

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Lana March 4, 2010 at 6:40 pm

Nadia, dear, thank you, Nothing ventured, nothing gained, so true!

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Jacqueline Gates March 3, 2010 at 4:03 pm

I was so relieved to read Megan’s comment and realize I wasn’t the only one resisting the concept with every fragment of my being!

You see, I WANT to be important. I Want to be remembered. Thinking that I don’t matter and what I do doesn’t matter would lead me to not bother to be or do anything. And that’s just too depressing for words.

But at the same time – I understand your viewpoint. And it is indeed liberating. There’s a quote I read once, don’t know who said it, but it goes something like “We would all stop worrying about what people thought of us if we realized how seldom they actually do.”

So in wanting to matter to people ~ I have to stop thinking that I matter and just concentrate on being me.

How ironic is that?

Fabulous post and thought-provoking viewpoint.
So glad I found it!

Bliss and blessings,
the Goddess known as Jacqui
.-= Jacqueline Gates´s last blog ..40 year olds doing Headstands =-.

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Lana March 4, 2010 at 6:43 pm

Jacqui, you are important and you do matter when you are being yourself
(which you are doing fabulously btw:)) That was the point made in this post. Thank you fo stopping by and commenting!

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Marianne Cantwell March 4, 2010 at 10:56 am

What a powerful post. You said many things people often avoid admitting to themselves. I love your blog, and look forward to more!

Marianne

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Lana March 4, 2010 at 6:44 pm

Thank you so much Marianne, glad to see you here!

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boris March 4, 2010 at 12:03 pm

Dear Lana,
You present here some enlightening statements. Thansk for sharing.
At the same time, I disagree with your statement that “You are not important at all”. I think that you are the most important person in your life. Take care of yourself, your health, your wellness, etc.! You will realize that the best way of helping yourself is helping others.
Starting from that statement that I disagree on, you reach very good conclusions.
Be yourself will be always a great advice.. 😉 Thanks.
All the best!
Boris
.-= boris´s last blog ..Two halves don’t make a whole… =-.

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Lana March 4, 2010 at 6:48 pm

Boris, you are the most important person in your life, not others, that was my point here and you should totally take care and love yourself.:) Let’s don’t take the “you are not important” part out of context. You are important when you are being yourself. That was the whole point of the post. Thank you for your comments!

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Patti March 4, 2010 at 9:52 pm

Hi Lana,
Hear me, first, I have known much freedom and improved quality of life based on the info/advice I received from you, Thank-you!!!! My spirit was really checked by an above comment you made –
What if I lived life based on my desires,
What if I had a “need for speed” and drove 80mph through a residential area?
What is I just didn’t feel like showing up at my volunteer job and left those who depend on me in a very uncomfortable bind?
What if I felt a deep connection w/ Mr. Right and wanted to have sex with him and he did not tell me he had AIDS, an STD or that he was married?

It seems reckless to indulge all my desires, especially if I am not yet aligned with my true self. Sure I would learn lessons, but they might be deadly.
I am trying to reconcile all the things you advise while weighing the consequences.

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Lana March 5, 2010 at 3:12 am

Dear Patti, first, thank you for reading my info/advice, I really appreciate it.

I do truly believe that when you listen to your True Self it cannot lead you to a wrong direction. You won’t feel like driving at 80mph, you won’t feel like hurting anyone who depended on you etc.. Your True Self knows what is best for you and those around you. It makes decisions based on love and faith. If you listen to it, you cannot go wrong. I truly believe in it. That is why I emphasize the “being you” part.

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Travis @Withinthebody March 4, 2010 at 10:40 pm

This article reminded my of the song by Kansas called Dust In The Wind. All we are is dust in the wind! Our physical being might not last forever, but the actions we take in life could have an everlasting effect on generations to come.

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Lana March 5, 2010 at 3:12 am

Never heard that song, but so true. Thanks Travis!

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Liara Covert March 5, 2010 at 3:49 pm

You feel appreciation for what is “there.” Choosing to reflect on a deeper, more open level unleashes self-disclosure. This process is a way to open yourself to layers of thoughts and emotions that are not on the surface level awareness. You create what you choose to create.
.-= Liara Covert´s last blog ..What if everything is always well? =-.

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Lana March 11, 2010 at 3:10 am

You create what you choose to create – well said Liara:)

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Stephen - Rat Race Trap March 7, 2010 at 9:38 pm

Hi Lana, as hard as it is for most people to accept in the scheme of the world you are correct. We are insignificant. However, another way to look at it is that there is one person to whom I matter a lot, a whole lot. There is one person to whom I matter crucially – myself. Then there is another sphere of impact that I have on those close to me right here and right now. I can make a small difference to them as well. So I will not waste my precious seconds worrying about what others think of me because I realize that in not too may years nobody will be thinking of me at all.

“No one will remember anyway. You might as well stop trying to fit in, stop striving, stop pushing , stop being a victim of circumstances and just allow yourself to be YOU and do what YOU want to do and what makes your soul sing.”

Yes!
.-= Stephen – Rat Race Trap´s last blog ..Change Made Simple – Direct the Rider =-.

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Lana March 11, 2010 at 3:08 am

Exactly, Stephen!

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Jenn March 11, 2010 at 2:02 am

wow this is awesome! Thank-you Thank you! 😉 I’m jumping in for sure! 😉 ~Jenn
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..Laughter, The Bubble and The Revision Process =-.

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Lana March 11, 2010 at 3:09 am

Thank you Jenn, I am jumping too, such a joy to be able to inspire others!

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Deep March 25, 2010 at 7:09 pm

Hi Lana,
Great to read that “No one will remember you in 100 years”. Its true. I believe that its a great relief and its a great gift.

This is how we can start new things again. I personally try not to go into memory beyond last five year (unless essential to carry out day today work) and find that the life is more intresting.
Leave others, why we need to remember things of past?

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free will September 15, 2010 at 2:45 pm

i know your right because im crying………..nice X

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free will September 15, 2010 at 3:06 pm

can i just ask you one question?……i really believe your right …..but i would like to know your answer.

….”if nothing matters……and nobody cares…….whats the point of finding your True bold dreams and going after them????”

….funny….i think ive answered it myself, as soon as i wrote the question! ….. “because it will make ME happy”….?

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free will September 15, 2010 at 3:21 pm

….ok 1 more question…….
“can i take you out on a date?”…..!!! ; )
you told me to ask!! you look and sound a very beautiful person……lol……i know, i know. youve got a man! ; )

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simon December 5, 2011 at 9:55 pm

It is awesome to read and only to realize that you are actually not the only person on earth going through this problem. Just to realize that others out there have conquered their fears, thus offering tools on how to, is completely liberating. You see, I’ve been struggling with a condition/ phobia called Allodoxaphobia: A fear of people’s opinions of me. I know very well that my fear is irrational but it has this huge grip on me. Thank you all for sharing with me your experiences, because it has some how given me the courage to face my fear – one day at a time.

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dog June 30, 2013 at 7:29 am

Thanks for the article ,It caused me to think a lot about life tonight . It got me thinking so much that i spent my sat night walking for hours in the dark around the city that i live .Portland ,OR. I felt good after I read it . The phrase “you are not that important ” caused me to feel free for a while . I am really not that important . Hell , I am single and don’t even have any friends . who will remember me when I die ? Well , only a handful of people I suppose . Is it true that Im not that important ? I don’t know .Maybe there is a creator of the earth and the universe ,and maybe i fulfill an important roll here on earth .Who knows . LOL . I suppose that Each one of us has to figure it out for our self’s .

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Jonah Varc September 11, 2014 at 5:25 pm

Hey Lana,

Your truth assumes that goodness is at the core of human existence, whereas, some liberated souls perpetrate pain & suffering on others.

And you should consider the toilet. Maybe you don’t share my passion for taking a comfortable crap, but I feel deeply thankful whenever I have unrestricted access to a clean toilet in a private bathroom. So many people to be thankful for…the inventor of the toilet, the contractors who built the bathroom, the folks who manage the water supply…the list is endless. My guess is that not all of them were living their dreams.

Like lots of folks, I have many obligations, and I am fearful of not fulfilling expectations. 100 years from now, it’s extremely doubtful that anyone will remember anything I’ve done, but if I live life with no regard for anything but my dreams, it’s unlikely that anyone will benefit.

Effusive wisdom may not be wisdom at all.

Jonah

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