As you know – do or don’t do, there is no try. I am not into Star Wars, but for whatever reason this phrase just came to mind.
Unlike Yoda, I like trying. I try projects. Hobbies. Relationships. Parenting practices. Styles.
Don’t be fooled by the word – try. I try but I still give it my whole heart. I don’t try anything halfheartedly.
I have hard time finishing those projects sometimes. And I make mistakes. And I give up sometimes. And here is where you might say that Yoda is right. And I might agree with you.
But you know what? Trying does one thing right each and every time. It always moves me forward.
It always takes my awareness to the new level. And this benefit alone outweighs all the drawbacks.
Last spring I wanted to try homeschooling my son. I told Keith: We’ll try. He said: Ok. And helped me to setup the playroom to make it more home school friendly. I dived right in. I chose Montessori method. I got books in the library, bought a home study course online, crafted special Montessori materials. We tried for 3 months until we decided that homeschooling was not the right thing for us. Right now anyway.
But was it the only result?
No. I learned so much about myself during the process. I learned that I copy my mom. In many things I do as a parent. Totally unrelated but, oh, so useful information. I figured I had lots of unconscious patterns to clear. And each time I clear one, another one comes up. If not our homeschooling adventure I could have never learned to recognize those patterns.
I learned so much about my child and his style of learning and things he is naturally inclined to. I learned patience. I learned that I am not good at it. I learned that I can learn to be good at it. I started realizing the depth of how school affects us and how badly our education system needs to change and what I want to see in the school my kids go to. I learned much more, but this is enough for now.
7 years ago I tried leaving Russia and immigrating to US.
I told everyone that I might come back in 3 months. I didn’t say proper good-byes. But I packed as if coming back wasn’t an option. I opened my heart. My whole heart to this new country. And I stayed.
I tried going back to school to get a degree in a completely different field. I tried jobs. I tried taking entrepreneurship class even though I couldn’t even spell the word entrepreneurship nor did I fully understand what it meant. I tried getting married. I tried getting divorced. I tried starting a business. I tried putting my coaching page up. I tried creating products. I tried to change what was not working. Just to find more things that were not working. I tried. And I keep trying every day. I want to keep trying.
Because trying brought me to where I am now.
Trying takes me to the new level of awareness. Trying opens up new horizons. Trying is the best way of self-discovery I know.
But you have to try with your whole heart. That’s the trick.
I know what you might say. Trying is trying. And I’ll tell you-you are right. But you know what? It’s better than doing nothing. Way better, my friend.
It’s better than being paralyzed by fear. It’s better than trying to figure out how to overcome that fear so you can do what you want to do without “trying”. Because you might never figure it out. Because while you are figuring it out, what you wanted to try might become irrelevant. And you lost the opportunity to learn more about yourself. And open new doors.
I am convinced. Trying is a good thing.
Trying is Daring.
I want to do more of it. Intentionally.
I have a special announcement. Tomorrow.
Until then, what are you going to try today?