My son Nicholas is two years old. He is the most precious thing in my life. I want to cry when I am thinking how truly blessed I am having him.
I learned from him so much, more than from any books I have read. Today I wanted to share some of the things I learned from him with you:
Books don’t have all the answers, sometimes you just have to let go and go with the flow.
I was 25 when Nicholas was born. I thought I was so ready to have a baby. I had read so many parenting books during pregnancy. Dr. Sears and his attachment parenting was always closer to me, but some of Gary Ezzo’s stuff made sense too. I decided I would be something in between–that I would take the best from both of those the parenting styles.
I learned all the techniques and tips (how to calm the baby, how to teach him to sleep through the night, what routine needs to be in place, how to feed him, etc.). I truly thought I was prepared 100%. And was I wrong!
Despite all of my knowledge, Nicholas didn’t sleep through the night up until he was two years old. I tried everything from the books but nothing worked.
Well, we both survived. Quite nicely in fact. I now look back at my sleepless nights with a smile and wouldn’t change a thing about them.
Many other things I learned from the books never worked and I finally learned that it is OK, I learned to just go with the flow. It is the best way to go anyways.
I learned to rely on my heart and what felt like the right thing to do at the moment instead of trying to find all the answers in books.
Playing is the way of life, the whole world is one big playground.
Life is all about playing. Nicholas can play anywhere, anytime. He can play when he is tired, he plays when he is upset, he plays when he is happy.
He can play in the car, on the plane, at the playground, in the doctor’s office, at the store. It doesn’t matter where and with what, he will always find a way to play with anything he has at hand.
He doesn’t need to be in a special mood to play, this is the only mood he has. He doesn’t need to have any special toys, he will find what to play with anywhere.
Even when he does something serious, he is still playing. That is the only way he knows how to live–playing. And I think it is a wonderful way!
Now is perfect, lets enjoy it fully.
I’ve mentioned it in previous posts of mine, Nicholas is always present in this moment. He knows how to fully enjoy NOW. Not tomorrow, not yesterday, but NOW.
Now is always perfect for him. He gives his full intensity and attention to what he experiences in the moment and then lets go and moves on to the next moment.
I sure wish I could live like this. Life consists of moments. How you live your moments is how you live your life. This is the best gift anyone can give themselves-learn how to live and enjoy each moment to the fullest.
He never regrets anything. When something upsets him he lets go very quickly and forgets about it in a matter of minutes.
He forgives himself and forgives others quickly and easily.
When do we lose this wonderful ability? I wonder at what age we start accumulating offenses and regrets, instead of just letting them go and forgetting about them.
Failure is not a big deal, it is just another step.
He is learning new things so fast. He was an early baby, he started crawling at 5 months and walking at 9 months. Falling was never a big deal when he was learning those skills, he would get up and try again until he succeeded.
He is the same with everything else he does. He would never give up just because something didn’t work out the first few times around. Failure is simply not an option for him.
Maybe that is why kids are so quick at learning new things. Because they do everything with an open mind. Fear of failure is not distracting them from their goal.
If we as adults could get rid of that fear once and for all too, can you imagine how many dreams we would have reached and how much quicker?
I learned many other things from my son but those are the ones I wanted to share with you today. What did you learn from your kids?
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