How To Spend Time With Yourself and Why.

First of all, Merry Christmas, my dear friends! I wish you love, peace of mind, wealth, great health, laughter, joy and the manifestation of all of your desires. I love each and every one of you and am so grateful for you being a part of my life by reading this blog.

This holiday season is all about giving gifts-to our family, friends, loved ones. Giving gifts is great. It is awesome actually.

So I wanted to talk about one special gift that you could give to yourself this holiday season.

The gift of time.

The gift of spending time with yourself.

This post is actually inspired by a great blog I recently discovered called The Naked Soul.  The owner of the blog, Mark, wrote a post No room at the Inn about a Christmas story a lot of us know - when Mary and Joseph came to the town of Bethlehem and were looking for a place to stay as it was time for Mary to give birth.

They came to one Inn but the Inn was full, there was no room for them.

Mark says: “ For me this is a story that illustrates “God”, “Love” “Source” , “The Universe” (call it what you may) knocking on our door and  us saying “No, we are too full, there is no room here for you, please move along as we are too busy, too important, too arrogant to make room for you in our life at this time”.”

I am going to make a connection here between the Universe or Source that Mark is talking about and our soul or our Highest Self.

How often do you make time to spend with your soul?

How often do you make time to spend with yourself?

It’s been proven time and time again that answers to any questions we have are within us already. Everything we ever needed to be happy and to reach all of our goals is within us already.

But how often do we reach within? How often do we actually stop and listen to our soul?

Is it something on our priority list? Is it something we make a point to do every day? Do we put it on the same line of importance as we do our jobs, our goals, and everything else we are spending time on?

I am sure for many of us the answer is NO. Even though it doesn’t make any sense.

Why in the world would we run around trying to solve a problem when we could stop, look inside and find the solution much quicker and with less effort?

Only when I truly realized that and started spending time with myself, did I notice a shift in everything I was doing.

I got much more clarity, I became much more effective without striving for it, lots of creative ideas started popping up in my head, I started living  more consciously without much effort, I naturally let go of negative thoughts that were not serving me and overall became much happier and more at peace.

I truly believe if we spent time every day communicating with our soul we would be  happier and more successful in life and amke this world a much better place to live in.  

What does it mean to spend time with your soul?

Spend time with yourself. Get quiet, ask questions  and listen. You can do it by journaling, or meditating, or visualizing or just sit quietly and listen.

Or better yet, spend some time telling yourself how much you love yourself. Most of our problems come from us not loving and accepting ourselves enough. Spend some time every day filling yourself with love and accepting yourself.

Let go of fears, worries, deadlines or any other clutter in your head.  Let go of everything at least for a few minutes a day and actually be there for yourself, your True Self and listen to what it has to tell you. You’ll be amazed at some miraculous changes that will start happening in your life if you do that consistently.

I know that a lot of my readers do that already, the message in this post is to those who still don’t, but know they should.

How do you make it happen? How do you find time to be with yourself every day? Here are some things that helped me:

1. Understand your “whys”. Why do you want to do it? Most likely your “why” is to live a more conscious and authentic life. It might also be to find answers and let your intuition guide you in reaching your goals. Connect to your Higher Self. Become more creative and get more ideas. What are your “whys”?

2. Schedule. Actually schedule time to be with yourself. Just like you schedule any other appointments and activities of yours. The more routine and predictable you make it, the more likely you are to actually do it.

3. Unclutter. Unclutter the space you are going to spend time with yourself. Just like you want your mind to be uncluttered from all the mind chatter in order for you to be able to focus on your soul and your Highest Self, the space around you has to be uncluttered too. Physical clutter is very disturbing to our mind and soul, get rid of it.

4. Choose what you are going to do. Actually decide how you are going to spend your time with yourself. Some of the ideas for you:

• Journaling. Journaling is a great self discovery tool. By writing we connect directly to our subconscious and our soul. It helps us to get out the messages they were trying to communicate to us. You can ask specific questions and write whatever answers come to mind or just write whatever you feel like writing about at the moment.
• Meditation. This is a primary tool for connecting with the Universal Mind and your Highest Self. Don’t know how to meditate? Just sit for 10 minutes and focus on your breathing. No need in learning any special techniques.
• Visualization. Spend some time daydreaming with a purpose. Get comfortable and think of your ideal day. Forget about everything, forget about how you are ever going to get to that day and just allow yourself to dream and feel your dream as if it came true already.
• Fill yourself with love. Say – “I love and accept you deeply and unconditionally” to yourself over and over again.
• Talk to your Inner Child. Find that little girl or boy inside of you and talk to him. Tell her how much your love her. Tell him how much you are proud of him. Tell her that you’ll be there for her no matter what. Give him the love and acceptance that he didn’t get when you were growing up. That child is still inside of you and he needs you to nurture him.
• Draw. Our soul often communicates with us using pictures. Visual journaling or using pictures to communicate your feelings is actually a very effective tool to understand yourself better and find the answers to questions you might have. I learned about Visual Journaling from my friend Marina and it is amazing what it can do for you and how you can express lots things you were not able to express with words using Visual Journaling. I’ll probably have my friend write a post about Visual Journaling here soon.

5. Make it a habit. Consistency is a key. How do you get consistent at something? By making it your habit. There are lots of ways to make something a habit. You probably know what works for you.

 What works for me is to start small. Set a goal to do something for 3 or 7 days. Then for another 3 or 7 days. Then another. Small intervals don’t overwhelm your mind and ensure you actually start doing it.

Once you build a momentum, it’s going to be easier to continue going.

I hope those points will help you. Give yourself a gift this holiday season to find a place for your soul in your everyday life. Commit to spending time with yourself every day.

You’ll see miracles, I promise.

Have a very Merry Christmas!